Posted on Jun 18, 2006 | Comments 0
Our Hearth desire consider actually moving towards, when a part of us routinely looks ahead to the feasible consequences â€“ the possible consequences particularly the negative ones. Our â€œcomfort zoneâ€ glooms onto these negative consequences. The negative consequences will take actions when comport region argues.
The comfort zone’s emotionally backed recommendation: No Action
The comfort zone stays reasonably quiet as long as we don’t dangerously consider action. We can tell everyone we know how we’re one day going to have it at every chance. We can want our dream all we want; we can think about someday getting it as much as we like. We can even build commitments we don’t really plan to keep. The only thing we can’t do is perform IT!
Comport zone goes into overdrive If we begin to do it, hyper drive, actually – and gets us back on track. The comfort zone is what we’ve always done before “On track”, which means headline (again) toward B, even if our dream rests with A. Why are the consequences of action so uncomfortable? Let’s take a look:
1. We must go other choices, when we prefer. For example, if we have enough money for one Popsicle, and we choose tangerine, cherry, we must let go of grape, watermelon, orange, banana supreme, and passion fruit. Naturally, we don’t want to let go of all of those other flavors that we love. When we make our big choice and go for the Big Dream, it means letting go of all the other Big Dreams, even though those dreams may be as appealing as grape, orange, tangerine, banana supreme, watermelon, and passion fruit. If we make no choice, we end up with nothing. All that loss! We’re miserable. We should have stayed at home. No, the storekeeper won’t let us have a bite of each. No, there’s no credit.
2. We risk losing when we select. If we make no choice, we end up with nothing. when we make our big choice and go for the Big Dream, it means letting go of all the other Big Dreams, even though those dreams may be as appealing as grape, orange, tangerine, banana supreme, watermelon, and passion fruit. If we make no choice, we end up with nothing. If we boldly walk into the store and say, “I want a cherry popsicle,” we run the risk of the storekeeper saying, “We’re all out,” or, even worse, “We sell the last one five minutes ago. You just missed it.” (Why do people say things like that? Why do they add torture to torment? We don’t know why, but they do.)
3. When we select, we risk winning. We pace in! We put down our money! We get the cherry Popsicle! We claim it! It is in our hand! It is ours! The store- keeper says, “Well done!” Now what?
It’s the big â€œNow-What?â€ that many people find more threatening than “the agony of defeat.” Defeat is part of most people’s comfort zone. But winning? “What would I do? What would happen to me? How would I cope?” It’s called the fear of success. Not only do we have to make changes to become successful, but success itself brings additional changes. When the success is greater than changes occurs greater.
Whenever we trust the one Big Dream, We might lose .we might not get it. Every person will not identify the Big Dream. But every person will know, too. It’s the “agony of defeat.” Ugh! How terrible. We never actually choose – never really commit – if we don’t get it, we can always say, “Oh, I didn’t really want it anyway.”
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