Posted on Jun 30, 2006 | Comments 0
Self-blame and blaming others are resistances that block your success. People who blame themselves are filled with blame, like guilt, worry, shame, doubt, and fear, drain your energy and prevents you from moving ahead and facing challenges.
One reason why people do not grow, move ahead, make changes in their lives, or take responsibility is because they blame themselves for falling short of reaching a valued goal.
Taking responsibility for those actions you do take, rather than blaming yourself for inaction, is one way to create opportunities for growth and fulfill your goals. Relationship discord, career disappointment, and family conflict are a few examples of symptoms which can result from unfulfilled goals.
When you take personal responsibility for your thoughts and actions, you act bravely and are not powerless. When you act on your greatest dream, whether it’s achieving status as a great sports figure, participating in the Olympic games, graduating from college, becoming a successful entrepreneur, becoming a hero or heroine like NASA’s courageous astronauts, doctor, or dynamic speaker, or loving others with optimum emotional impact, take action. Overcome the curse of inaction by thrusting yourself forward. Become an active participant in determining the outcome of your own life.
If you have difficulty taking action then you not only blame yourself, but blame others, especially when situations don’t conform to your expectations. Self-blame results in self-pity while personal responsibility results in action and change.
Depending too heavily on others for self-support is a resistance that sabotages your taking action. Self-sabotaging beliefs and emotions limit you from taking risks and stop you from learning how to grow and change.
A person who/lacks self-esteem and wants support from others is lacking the essential qualities that endorse survival self-support. When an individual is frozen in an outdated way of acting, he is less capable of meeting any of his survival needs, including his social needs. Blaming others, and not accepting responsibility for your action, is a resistance to change and a form of denial.
Self blamers put the blame for their behavior on themselves as opposed to holding themselves responsible. They use all their energies blaming themselves and have no energies left to get out of their self-created ruts.
Manipulate your self-blame and blaming others are directed towards preserving and cherishing your handicaps rather than getting rid of them. When people take the blame for their behavior, this is just as infertile as placing the blame on external factors.
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