Posted on Jun 18, 2006 | Comments 0
Listen to the way you respond to questions and situations. You will find that people respond more excitedly to you. Observe your language. Build a conscious effort to develop a positive charge.
Even if you don’t ask who tell you their complete life story? Fine the other day I hitched a ride with a friend and as soon as we got into the car, she launched into a negative dialogue about how much she abhorrent her job. She despises it. So I listened. I know. She told me and told me and told me and told me! Well, she was giving me a ride, and I couldn’t very well tell her to be quiet in her own car.
She go on and on about this job and how bad it was, and lastly I interrupted. “If it’s that stressful and if it is causing you that much pain, why don’t you just quit and do something else?” She replied by saying something that put her in the refrain with a lot of other people going nowhere in their lives. “
Several days I went around for asking people what they were doing for a living and if it was their passion in life to do that. Some people told that their passion. If they said their work was not their passion, I asked what their real passion was and why they were not doing it. Consistently, they would respond, “Oh, I would, but . . .” Sound familiar? It did to me, so I began testing a theory on other people.
Many of the people reach our lives if we put “but” and his family to rest and plunged into life.
How many times have you hear one of those words or phrases used as an excuse? The “buts” just kept coming up. How many times have you hear them come out of your own mouth? Too often, we do again negatively charged words as if we are in a dream, and, in a sense, when we use them we are sleepwalking through life. For canceling our own dreams we look to be automatically adroit at finding excuses. I think “but” and words like it are dream killers. I consider many of us would achieve more in our lives if we put “but” and his family to rest and plunged into life.
When you don’t move on life, life moves on you. You can change your attitude from negative to positive. It is important for you to learn to observe your language because by listening to yourself and varying your language.
When hard times hit, we need to look for reasons to move forward, not for reasons to idle through life. â€œBut” is a crutch; it is an excuse for procrastinators and those of us who lack the courage to live our dreams. It allows us to validate our inaction.
Associating Yourself with Positive People
However, you don’t have to associate with denominating people at breaks, meals, or after-work social events. Find ways to remain warm, but don’t spend too much time with those people.
You correlate with some people not by choice but simply by circumstance. You can’t choose your coworkers, for example; sometimes you have to do the best you can to work with and get along with them congenially.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel better about yourself, people who notice what’s right and good instead of what’s wrong and bad. Everyone has said on some occasion, “I just feel inspired; I feel better about myself and my future when I’m around so and-so.” In other words, choose to associate with people you want to be more like.
However, you don’t have to link with denominating people at breaks, meals, or after-work social events. But don’t spend too much time with those people. Find ways to stay cool. You correlate with some people not by choice but simply by circumstance. You can’t choose your coworkers, for example; sometimes you have to do the best you can to work with and get along with them warmly.
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