Posted on Jul 11, 2006 | Comments 0
Thoughts can either lubricate your success or create resistance to halt positive changes in your achievement. Your Thoughts and expectations from others about who you are and what you can or cannot achieve also contributes to changes in your self-image.
Your thoughts and expectations about who you are and how you fit into different situations play an important role in the formation of your attitude and your self-image. Your self-concept is strong-minded by the perceptions you have of yourself – the way you see yourself.
If you believe you can’t change things, your personality will work overtime making sure that you don’t succeed. You allow yourself to give in to your self-defeating thoughts. By focusing on creating positive beliefs, and taking positive action, you’ll get positive results.
On the other hand, creating negative thoughts, and taking negative action, youâ€™ll get negative results. Your thoughts determine your self-worth and your success. When you create a self-image of inadequacy and failure, you construct the negative reality and make stronger your own failure.
You get caught up in your own failure writing and become prearranged to fail in everything you attempt. When you believe you’ll fail, a self-fulfilling prediction of failure emerges. Rather than experiencing the fruits of success
Consider a problem or difficult situation in your life. Is it something that you can change? Or is it something you have no control of? Positively charged people learn to attack those problems that they can change and to live with those that they cannot – thereby robbing the problem of its power over them.
If you cannot change the problem, change the way you view it. Example: â€œMy employer is going to lay me off for three weeks.â€ Positive response: â€œI can spend the time seriously looking for a better, more secure job.â€
When you talk, listen to yourself for the “buts,” “could oafs” and “donnas” in your own conversations and those of people around you. Zap those negatively charged words and phrases from your own vocabulary.
Positively strengthen the thoughts, behaviors and needs that will help you, and others, achieve success. Eventually, your thoughts determine your self-esteem and your success. The higher your self esteem, the greater will be your self-confidence and the ability to handle yourself positively in various situations.
Thoughts and expectations from others also persuade and determine how you define yourself, and the actions you eventually take. When a person you value highly believes in you, their beliefs and actions influence you to believe in yourself, increasing your self-esteem.
One way to change your perspective is by developing positive self-talk. Decide to improve the way you view life. A positive change in your viewpoint will change your personality and self-esteem.
Positive self-talk utilizes your own inner voice. Use positive self-talk boosts self-confidence, your ability to control and consistently use. It’s important to change negative thoughts and emotions into positive beliefs about what you can and will do.
As you continue to guide your thoughts and ideas in a positive and healthy way, you begin to overcome negative thoughts and attitude. Your positive beliefs and perceptions paint a bright picture of reality, increasing your optimism and motivation.
How Your Decisions Impact Those around You
Whether in a company, in a family, or in any other relationship – has a direct posture on the decisions you make. If you work in your company’s marketing department, for example, you’re most likely very excited about any lawful method of getting your product and/or business in front of the people who are in a position to buy.
When you’re confronted with a choice that affects not only you but also other people, the process becomes more complicated.
Before making any decision that involves more than one person, get input from all sides. One decision you should make right up front is to be open minded and empathetic to the other people’s needs and desires.
That decision enables you to get along better with the other people, bring balance to the process, and maintain harmony, which is important for achieving maximum effectiveness.
When a decision impacts a number of people who are part of your team, remember that decisions are more likely to be implemented effectively and willingly when everyone on the team feels like an important part of that team.
When possible, include the others in the process. If involving them is either impossible or impractical, understand that their acceptance of your decision depends on your credibility. If you have a track record of using mature judgment and doing what’s right, your decision is more likely to be well received.
Change Your Attitude by Smiling
Generally speaking, the first thing you notice when you meet a person is the smile – or absence of a smile – on his or her face. Very few things influence for the good and give more encouragement than a sincere smile.
English essayist Joseph Addison said, “What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. They are but trifles, to be sure, but, scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.”
Your smile can motivate the people who see it, and the smiles of others can motivate you. Your own smile can motivate you, too, and not just when you see it in a mirror. Put a smile on your face, even when you don’t feel like smiling, and pretty soon that smile seeps inside and cheers you up.
In radio broadcasting classes, students are told to smile when they talk into the microphone, even though the listeners can’t see that smile, because talking with a smile on your face makes you sound more friendly and warm. Listeners can hear you smile.
Try deliberately putting a smile on your face, and you’ll see. You may feel at first as though your smile is forced, but as people react favorably to your cheerful demeanor, their manner puts you in a good mood, and I think you’ll find that your cheerful act becomes genuine.
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