Posted on Jun 01, 2006 | Comments 0
Do you believe in forecast? Well, if you were educated you would know that no man or woman could forecast our future. However, we all have the capability to forecast our future. Sounds contradictory does it.
Behaviors help us to determine how our lives will turn out. Behaviors are the manner in which we conduct our self on a daily basis. Behaviors are organisms that react to stimulus producing action and response.
Behaviors are formed when we first arrive in the world and the more we perform a certain behavior the more attached that behavior comes.
How does behavior cause us stress?
It depends on the person and the teachings the person endured throughout his or her lifetime, but many of us lack in development in one way or another. Since, we have religion, law, teachers, siblings, employees, parents, employers, peers and so forth playing a part in our life we often become confused since all of us have our own beliefs.
The best teacher in the world is your self. If you take the time to study, learn, listen, hear, practice good, and so forth you will have the ability to see your future is successful.
You have a stress management that is surpassing any other management scheme, since no one can lead you if you choose to reject. It is good to take other peopleâ€™s beliefs into consideration, however, investigating and collecting evidence that proves a fact is more beneficial than accepting everything you are taught or told.
For example, Marvin is a logician. He takes extremely complicated problems and breaks them down to simplicity. This means he analyzes each problem carefully weeding through the pile and removing any areas that produce negative results.
He also collects and gathers evidence to support his claims when he finished, and this is a healthy practiced behaviors, since he do not lie, steal, or do anything that will cause harm to another person.
As you can see from above example, his problems were minimized, since his behaviors are positive and his stress level is not controlling his life. We can review behaviors and teachers to grasp hold of a better understanding how behaviors cause stress.
For example, his or her parents teach a child that speaking out of term in unsuitable. Each time the child disobeys the parent, he or she is punished. Since this teaching will tell the child during his or her development that it is not ok to speak up when someone hurts, violates, or induces other types of fears on this person we see a series of problems developing.
The person will go through life with the fear of punishment if he or she asserts self. How can we help this poor wrongfully taught individual find a way to reduce stress and avoid stressors?
First, our parents are significant people in our life that we believe in most cases that will not lie to us and believe these people have our best interest at heart. Now we see another problem, since this person will trust the parents before listening to someone else that tells him or her that they are safe and it is ok to speak your mind.
We can teach this person to practice self-talk first since self-talk is an approach that helps us to rely on self, rather than others. Self-talk is a method that tells us that we have control and that we have a right to determine what we think, feel and believe.
The method teaches us to take responsibility and learn communication that is efficient, since our thinking habits are in the procedure of change. We can also help the person by offering him or her tool known as visual display.
Visual display is helpful since it allows us to stroll back into the past and analysis our learning so that we can sort through the facts and remove the lies. It teaches us to display a pictorial event in our mind and then role-play to see if what we were taught is true.
Think of a time in your life that you spoke up and no one hurt you or punished you for your action.
Think about how many times this happened and what the consequences of your behavior led to. Practice these methods daily to learn a new method that benefits you and your life. If you do not see prediction by now in behaviors, then you probably never will.
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