Posted on May 30, 2008 | Comments 1
Practically, every one of you might have been hurt by the actions or words spoken by others.
When your friend humiliated you or when your partner had an affair with any other person, you can feel a bit distressed.
These wounds can actually leave you with certain enduring feelings of anger, unpleasantness and even revenge at times.
When someone, whom you care, hurts you badly, you will typically try to hold on your anger and bitterness. But at times, those feelings of revenge can squeeze your forgiveness.
As a result, you can get irritation on them and hence move forward with more distressed and depressed situations. So, if you donâ€™t try to forgive those situations, you can be the one who need to pay extremely for the end consequences.
Forgiveness is often mistaken as forgetting the mistake!
Forgiving some one, who hurt your feelings, doesnâ€™t essentially mean that you are overlooking what had happened to you. The act of wound to your heart or upset can always remain as a part of your life. However, forgiveness can help you to reduce the grip of depression or distress caused to you. It can mainly help you to focus on other positive parts of your life.
Forgiveness even doesnâ€™t mean that you are refusing the other personâ€™s responsibility for hurting you and also doesnâ€™t seem to minimize or justify the mistake made by other person. It is all about forgiving someone without excusing the act of hurt.
Feeling difficulty to interact with the person?
Interacting with the persons who are particularly guilty for the cause of distress or anger in you, can be rather difficult task. Especially, if the hurt mainly involves any one from your family or even your close friend, then it can be quite difficult for you to avoid him or her completely.
When you are invited to any kind of get together function or any family holiday gatherings, you can feel a bit stressed or tensed in order to face those particular persons.
How can you handle these kinds of situations? First and foremost thing you can do is, you have a choice whether to attend or not to those particular social gatherings. Next, try to respect yourself and do whatever seems to be correct for you.
If you have attained to an affirmation of forgiveness, then you can enjoy the party, without bringing up the old conflicts. But, if you have not reached to a state of forgiveness, then it is merely possible for you to feel tensed and stressed out to face the further circumstances.
However, forgiveness to yourself or someone else, though not a simple task, can still have a chance to transform your life. Rather than dwelling your life on unfairness and revenge and focusing on those wounded moments and feelings, try to move your life towards tranquility, mercy, happiness, compassion and also kindness to lead a delightful life.