Posted on Apr 21, 2007 | Comments 0
It is not necessary that self improvement always include solo ventures, since several times you need to improve things that involve other people.
One of the aspects which is often examined when a person sets forth to improve his or her life is the relationships he or she is currently involved with.
After a few years of relationship several people find that they feel as though the spark may have left their relationship with significant others, and often they will long for the once-burning passion they felt for their loved one.
However, in many cases with some efforts it is possible to rekindle these sorts of feeling.
Is It Truly Deserves to be Rekindled
First and foremost, it is significant to examine whether the relationship truthfully deserves to be rekindled.
Some people engage in on-again, off-again relationships which are more degrading than happy; in such situations it may be best to left alone and allowed to fizzle away for the sake of everyone involved.
On the other hand, in cases of committed relationships, it is always worth a shot to improve the relationship and rekindle some of the strong emotions which were once a part of the early experience.
Even though in several cases a relationship can never be “new” again, but it is possible to bring back some of the passion and make the relationship a little less stale.
Consider the Needs of Your Spouse
Most often, people after few years of relationship get into the habit of going through life concentrating on their own needs or the needs of their children, and might simply forget to consider the needs and wants of a spouse.
However, a person may certainly feel exhausted after a long day at work or a long day of caring for children and think only of blessed sleep.
Therefore, people should make every effort to satisfy their own needs, such as for sleep, rest, and time alone, as this will make them more refreshed and ready to pay attention to someone else.
For a stay-at-home mom, it is not self-centered to demand a weekly trip alone to a coffee shop to unwind, just like it is not difficult for a businessperson to schedule racquetball games in attempt to blow off some steam.
You should find something which is refreshing, engage in it to relax, and then youâ€™re your attention towards the spouse who needs attention.
It can do wonders immediately by focusing attention on a partner. It is even better to find some time alone together without any distractions.
Make sure to bring back some of the romance which was once so common in the relationship: small gifts for no specific reason, quick hugs and kisses, unexpected love notes, etc.
You can rekindle the feelings which may have fallen by the wayside with all these things. It is easier for two people to open up and feel more passionately towards each other when both of them are more at ease with each other.
Self improvement becomes more of a life improvement in such instances. Not only does the person seeking self improvement get a payoff, but the important person in his or her life gets additional advantage also. Improving a stale love life is well worth the effort.
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