Posted on Sep 29, 2008 | Comments 0
Forgiving others! This is one of the most difficult things for you to do in your life. But this is the best quality for you to develop in yourself.
When you are hurt by other personâ€™s actions or words, it can be quite tough task for you to forgive them, but this can add much respect on yourself and also moulds you as a better person in society.
Forgiveness is not to make the other person off the hook for their hurtful behavior; rather it is more about letting yourself off the hook and releasing the negative thoughts on the other person from your mind.
When you cannot forgive others, those negative feelings will certainly resonate out on your relationship with them.
First of all, before you learn how to forgive others, it is very essential for you to learn how to develop this better quality in yourself.
Here are certain simple steps that can greatly help you to develop forgiveness in yourself and also to forgive others for their mistakes.
Face the facts!
Feel responsible and try to accept the facts in reality that you have to forgive another person or yourself.
If you fail to face the facts or donâ€™t accept that your intolerance or unforgiving nature is making you to stuck in bitter, you can never get out of the rut and live happy and enriching life.
Control your anger!
Eliminate your anger [Managing Anger] or hate towards other person and try to control your behavior and anger in front of other person, who had hurt you badly.
Instead of making yourself mentally ill with your anger, try to feel pity on others, those who have habit of hurting others or possess cruel nature.
Be kind to yourself!
Just because you have chosen to forgive your enemy or person who had hurt you, it doesnâ€™t mean that you have to feel unkind towards your thoughts.
When you develop unkind or pessimistic thoughts towards yourself, you can lose peace in your life and possibly make your life full of sorrows and unhappiness.
Give another reason for your sadness!
Donâ€™t feel depressed because you were a victim to others’ harsh or cruel actions. Try to feel sad because such kind of cruel nature exists inside others and try to forget your own personal experience.
Imagine the results of forgiveness!
When you really develop forgiveness in yourself, you can completely transform as a better person in your society. You can make your own place in this world.
So, whenever you feel hurt by othersâ€™ actions and words, try to realize that forgiveness is the only way to come out of your unhappiness.
Sooner or later, it is inevitable that you can get hurt in some or the other way with the actions or words of any one.
So, at that moment, remember these tips to develop forgiveness and try to forgive them for their mistakes to maintain better relationships in your life.
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