Posted on Mar 29, 2007 | Comments 0
Certainly, there is a connection between what you think about yourself – your self esteem, and your ability to accomplish your self improvement goals.
Having a good, positive self esteem or image of you is the best possible goal.
You can feel confident in your abilities to accomplish your goals when you feel good about yourself.
The image we have of our self is based on what we belief about who and what we are and what our abilities are. We can have constructive or destructive beliefs.
There are many things that are affected by our self esteem:
- The confidence we have in our self
- Our attitude about our self
- The ability to cope with stress in our life
- The ability to be assertive
All of these things are affected by how we see our self.
The following are the thoughts you will have when you have high or constructive belief about yourself:
- I can do this
- They believe I can do this
- I am good at this jobâ€¦gameâ€¦task
The following are the thoughts you will have if you have a low or destructive belief about yourself:
- I canâ€™t do anything
- No one believes I can do this
- Iâ€™m no good at doing this gameâ€¦.jobâ€¦..task
You are confident in your abilities and in your power to achieve your goals when you have positive or good self-esteem. To accomplish our self improvement goals we need to be able to envision ourselves achieving those goals. We are confident that we can and will achieve our goals when we believe in our self and in our abilities.
Those who lack confidence because they have low self-esteem cannot envision themselves accomplishing their goals, so they give up on making goals altogether.
Steps for Building Self Esteem
Understanding the strengths that you personally possess is the one thing that is of the utmost importance when you are trying to build up your self confidence level. Write a list up of all the things about yourself that you know you are a person that possesses unique talents and a worth to the world.
You need not hesitate to write down even minor things that you like about yourself, as they will help you to see the big picture. Write down even your weaknesses along with your strengths. You can learn in the end to use your dominant abilities to help to accommodate for your weak points.
As you see the problems that are within your life, you should do your best to set minor goals that can help lead to more success in the areas where you lack self esteem. If you are afraid of social circumstances, set yourself little goals throughout the week that slowly advance your abilities.
You can start with going out with friends of yours that you feel comfortable with, and begin slowly integrating more and more outgoing social skills step by step.
Also, whenever you feel that youâ€™ve achieved a milestone in an area in your life in which you lacked confidence, record it so that you can realize the progress that youâ€™ve made. The more and more you work at the area of your life that you are not confident in, the easier it will all become.
Taking the first step is the hardest one to take, and realize that you will begin to accommodate to changes more and more easily as you continue to build your confidence.
Another thing that is important is improving your self-image. Whenever you leave your house, be sure that you take some time to care for your appearance and your dress in order that you can feel comfortable when you face a social circumstance.
Thus, your mind wonâ€™t be on any problems with your immediate appearance, which results in improvement of your self esteem.
Improving your self-esteem can take some serious work and you will most certainly have to step out of your â€˜comfort zoneâ€™ so as to do so. The advantages, however, will be well worth the effort that you put into the goal of attaining self esteem.
Good self esteem can be nurtured in a child and encouraged by parents and caregivers. Children grow up to be confident, happy adults who believe in what they can do to improve themselves when children feel good about who they are and what they can achieve.
It is never too late to work on building good self-esteem. Taking the time to appreciate even the smallest accomplishments that we make and in fact giving ourselves credit for what we do that is good; can help to build our self-esteem.
We can build self confidence by taking things slowly and in small doable steps, and this each small step leads to another bigger step. Anyone can have good self-esteem and thus; anyone can achieve his or her self improvement goals.