Posted on Apr 15, 2006 | Comments 0
People with self-confidence believe in themselves and feel that they are capable of attaining what they want in life, or dealing with any situation that they may have to face.
These people have an atmosphere of self-confidence and self-assurance, which is perceptible to others. People will feel comfortable and secure in their presence; they like to spend time with them.
On the other hand there are many people who are reasonably talented but lack in self-confidence. These people are victims of the several self-confidence myths that surround.
People are born with self-confidence is one of the foremost myths about self-confidence. It is a quality that cannot be acquired. Nothing can be farther from truth. Like other skills self-confidence can also built. All that you need is right guidance and a belief in yourself.
Another Self-confidence myth is that self-confidence is directly proportional to the recognition and praise, which an individual gets in his or her life; the ones who are not so lucky wallow in self-pity.
Once again, there is little doubt that recognition and praise make you feel good about yourself, and boost your self-confidence. But you canâ€™t simply depend on the praise lavished by others.
You have to work hard to earn that praise, and you can do this only if you are self-confident. The same applies to those who are not successful. They, too, can earn praise if they work hard and win peopleâ€™s respect.
Such people should look at children. Children believe in themselves, and this gives them the self-confidence to try to do things they have never done before, be it learning how to cycle or how to swim. In fact, no child comes into the world knowing all the skills. But it does not take long to teach children most of the basic skills. Then, why should it be difficult for adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?
There are some people who believe that their low self-confidence is due to lack of good looks and poor background. They donâ€™t realize that self-confidence has nothing to do with their looks. It is a reflection of oneâ€™s confidence. Learning to believe in themselves is the only way to can overcome this myth about self-confidence.
In fact, self-confidence and talent are not inter-related. There are scores of talented actors and actresses who do very well onscreen but lack of self-confidence in their personal life. It may sound contradictory, but this is how life is.
Talent can be an important component of self-confidence, but it is certainly not a alternative for self-confidence. So, donâ€™t worry about lack of talent. Harness the skills that you possess.
Another self-confident myth is that only people with self-confidence can afford to take risks. This again is not true. In fact, people with self-confidence are more realistic about their capabilities.
They know exactly what is their capacity, what they can do, and what they canâ€™t do. More importantly, they know how to deal with failures. On the other hand people who lack self-confidence are afraid of failure.
This fear of failure prevents them from taking on new tasks. They always pine for the approval of others, and when they donâ€™t get it they end up losing their self-confidence.
What is perceptible is the lack of understanding. People must realize that state of mind is self-confidence. Self-confidence does not dependent upon a personâ€™s beauty or looks. It flows from a personâ€™s self-belief, and this belief can be built.
All that a person needs to do is to debunk self-confidence myths that cannot be acquired or that self-confidence is a byproduct of exceptional knowledge, skills and luck. Once they do so, they will find it easier to acquire the same magnetic powers that self-confident people have.
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