Posted on May 24, 2007 | Comments 0
Personal growth and self esteem go hand and hand. Self esteem is necessary for you grow, but sometimes you need to grow to gain self esteem.
You can do several things to keep the two in balance; however, you have to understand that it can very time consuming. You will need to think about the two separately and connected.
Firstly, you need to set some goals. What goals do you really want to do within a certain amount of time? Give yourself at least a month for each goal.
Always set your goals rationally or your self esteem will end up diminishing.
Try to think about how you can get where you want to be when you set goals. You get creative and grow from all the experiences, irrespective of how good or bad the experiences may be.
Learn from the Struggles
When you go for something you will have set backs and struggles, but you will learn from all of the struggles and you will grow. You will also find your self esteem rising after you have set the goal. You will notice that you walk a little bit taller and that you feel a little bit more confident.
The more goals that you met the more your self esteem will rise. Along with higher self esteem, but you will also have more success because you have faith in yourself. Self esteem can make you or break you.
Learn From Lessons and Failures
You have to think about why you failed. Learn from the lesson, not just accept your fate. You may not have wanted it as much as someone else or you may not have put your entire heart into. That’s okay too.
You can go for something and not put your full heart into, however, you have to accept the defeat with grace if you lose.
You can grow from your failures. You can look inside yourself and see why you failed and then next time you can fix the problem. Next time, you can either put more effort forth or you can accept a graceful defeat.
If you take the lesson from your experiences and you use them in a positive way, you will be able to grow as a person and you will be able to keep your spirits up.
Not only will find that your self esteem will remain, but you will also find that you will continuously grow from all the things that happen to you.
If you can take your failures with a grain of salt and look at them objectively you will be able to keep your self esteem up and that will make your success rate higher. You will find that you’ll get things done and with efficiency. Look at the little picture, but always keep the bigger picture in mind.
Balance Your Self Esteem
When it comes to self esteem, you have to realize just how powerful it can be. You will find that you feel like you can do anything if you go for something and accomplish it, but as soon as you fail, you will begin to think you’re worthless and so on.
You need to be able to balance your self esteem. You don’t want to be in the clouds all the time, but you don’t want to be off the charts either. When you achieve something you have to think about all the hard work you put into and how you achieved the goal.
This will allow you to grow because you are able to see that you had the power to attain your goal all the time. Then if you go for something and fail, don’t think negatively.