Posted on Aug 16, 2006 | Comments 0
Depression and take part in self-destructive behavior that can range from eating disorders, to cutting, to risky sexual behaviors are more likely to be suffered by the girls who do not feel good about themselves.
Obviously, it is a good idea in doing whatever you can to keep your daughter feeling good about her. The following tips are not at all inclusive, but they are a source. For both boys and girls, the teen years are some of the most difficult years.
According to studies as teen boys enter puberty; their self-assurance is likely in increase. Alternatively, girls’ confidence and feelings of self-esteem are about to take a downhill slide. The consequences of this can be damaging at best and obstructive at worst.
Honey, I am here
Probably, You’ve heard it repeatedly, but research continues to show that teens that feel their parents are paying attention and involved in their lives are much less likely to engage in dangerous or negative behaviors.
Yet if it seems your teen is ignoring you, she perhaps isn’t. It’s more likely that she is listening, but also trying to assert her independence as she navigates her way through increasing self reliance and the fears that accompany this.
Teens are at a difficult crossroad flanked by becoming more and more independent, while at the same time when the time comes, having feelings of not wanting to leave home, fears of college, fears of making a living, and all the other insecurities that go together with the responsibilities of maturity.
By making an ongoing effort to show your daughter that you are available, you can help dispel these fears. She can come to you when she is ready in this fashion.
She will instead turn to her peers, boyfriends, substances, or other methods of handling her emotions if she’s not getting the message that you are there for her.
Show Your Daughter that you have Confidence in Her
As appropriate, take means to show your daughter that you have confidence in her abilities, dreams, and achievements. Encourage to try new things and encourage her in what she does well.
Showing that you have confidence in her ability to engage new challenges will assist her feel more convinced in herself. On a regular basis during the teen and early adult years, she will need to face new situations, and it can make this much easier for her by having a support team.
Also, consider teaching or showing her ways she can develop her confidence, like taking a stand against gossip, school bullies, and pressures to do things she doesn’t want to do.
Peer pressure at this age can be enormous, and she can start to gain confidence in her successes when your daughter has the tools and the back-up plan (you) to cope with it.
Be an Idol to your daughter
Filled with a lot of responsibility, parents have a difficult job. However, one of the best things parents can do for their children is to set a good example. In spite of the family living situation, mothers and fathers are equally important in children’s lives.
Girls will be less likely to seek male attention elsewhere, when fathers have solid relationships with their daughters and show that they love them. Although it can be very hard and trying at times to be in touch with your teenage daughter, do your best to constantly let her know that you are available and that you love her. Mothers’ roles are also important.
If mothers show healthy ways of expressing emotions, emotional independence, and other positive attributes, it will make obvious to teen girls that they can talk louder for their needs without having to find negative ways of getting them met. This goes for both fathers and mothers.