Posted on Jun 26, 2006 | Comments 0
Confident people are having personal power. There are some people who look to be power-hungry are those who don’t have any power, like incontinence people donâ€™t have any power.
Once you achieve power, it becomes a burden. This statement comes from several of those minds that rise to power, thinking that happiness would follow, and were highly disappointed.
There are some people who originate enjoyment from ordering others around, regularly, that people lose power over their own lives.
People who run their own lives don’t need to run others. Paradoxically, though, as people rise in worldly power, they often lose power over their own lives, because they’ve got so many people to please and obligations to meet.
When this happens, sensible people can become Little Hitters. Sometimes they stay like that until they find a way to again handle their own lives.
When people lose power over their own lives, they begin to terrorize themselves with perfectionism. Perfectionism, like work holism, is one of those vices that masquerades as a virtue – its fear camouflaged as strength. The well-liked clinical psychology viewpoint on perfectionism is that it’s initiated by demanding parents.
However, many disagree with this conventional, blame-the-parents explanation. Their view is that perfectionism is just another mask for the fear of not being enough. It’s for insecure people who think that only the most perfect among us will win through.
There are people everyday who wake up and congratulate themselves on their perfectionism even when it was killing them – by contributing to their cardiovascular illness.
Successful people, in particular, often ingest the legend that it’s their perfectionism that has put them on top, rather than their brains and passion. One reason they feed themselves this legend is because perfectionism is so difficult that they need to overstate its benefits in order to be aggravated to sustain it.
Similar to perfectionism, and just as self-destructive, is obsession with control. People with money often think it should give them control over other people and their own lives, but it doesn’t. In fact, control is a legend.
Manage connotes absolute power, and in this world, there’s no such thing. You’ll see in life that there are countless people who waste their lives struggling for manage, and the more they demand it, the further they fall from true power.
True power comes from management, not manage. Management means realizing that you can’t manage everybody and everything, and dealing with the world on its own terms – giving a little, taking a little. It works. Related to perfectionism, and just as self-destructive, is mania with control.
Accountability Gives You Power over Your Life
However, it is assuming responsibility that gives us power over our lives. The more we practice the habit of acting from a position of responsibility, the more effective we become as human beings, and the more successful we become as managers of our lives.
In several situations have you always found yourself where you look around and wonder, “How did I ever get here?” The simple fact is that we contribute, either knowingly or unknowingly, in the process of getting where we are. The more we watch that and pay concentration, the more aware we become.
At that times we all want to speak, “Who, me? I had nothing to do with creating this mess! It just happened!” Or, “It was so-and-so’s mistake – there’s nothing I could have done!” We feel extremely powerless over the situation – like helpless victims. The last thing we want to hear when we’re all jammed up in our “victim story” is anything about being accountable and responsible!