Are you being candid? If you are being true, real and keeping it simple, you will be open and candid. They are like flipsides of a coin.
Mind, intention and character will all come together, synergized in and through, what and how you have to say and deliver something verbally!
Goals, Direction, and Intent… worded differently, encompass a clear aim and purpose…
There has to be a reason and goal, purpose and motivation for something ‘oratory’ to be deemed successfully delivered!
- Find out your strengths and capitalize on them.
- Being true and purposeful, deliberate and open is important. Deception and hidden agendas will NOT be acceptable.
- Being empathetic and understanding is critical as well.
Speaking up with ability and confidence…
You are your own best/worst enemy when in these public speaking situations. Are you tapping into your strengths and resourcefulness? You have only yourself to rely on when you are up there ‘speaking’.
You have to anticipate and be at the ready for anything. You should reflect and introspect as often as you can. You will have to plan and prepare EVERYTIME! Sometimes you will even have to make the choice to take the risk of failure if necessary.
If you do fail, learn from it and move on! Be inspired and embrace your talents, discipline and practice. Your mastery is an ongoing work in progress.
You can use everyday conversation and public events to practice your skills, often and as frequently as you possibly can as you keep refining your skill and competence. You will also grow more self-confident [Improving Self Confidence] because of it and things will start to happen more naturally for you anyway!
First and foremost this is not about you (but it is in a way). If you are trying your best to get better at what you do, it should first and foremost be for yourself, NOT FOR OTHERS, to brag, be seen or gain acceptance, praise and the like. Be modest AND honest!
Someone once aptly expressed and stated that ‘Earnestness is the natural language of sincerity and high purpose.’ I read this somewhere and it made such a lasting impression.
Your voice, looks, and gestures also tell a story. Is it the same and/or consistent with the words that you are using?
Not everyone does public speaking for the same reasons. Even if the audience is cold and non-responsive, it will be up to you to engage and inspire! You are their call to action and involvement.
- You are not violent or aggressive.
- Your gestures will be well thought out and effectively executed.
- Avoid exaggerated behavior like shaking of the head, rolling the eyes, twisting and contorting the body, meaningless gestures, they distract and are highly ineffective. They undermine your purpose and intent!
- Write and speak with the full spectrum of inflection, emphasis, pause, tone, pace gestures and more!
- Harness your abilities and competencies to serve the greater good and be successful in public speaking and all arenas of your life for that matter.
See public speaking and the interaction, verbal exchange and connection, as a great opportunity to share in the human condition! You will be greatly rewarded if you do embark down this path.
To deal with emotions…
Everyone expresses how they feel and act differently and uniquely. NO TWO OF US ARE THE SAME. There is no one-size fits all solutions here. Some general considerations and recommendations, however, might be in order and ‘help’ us all:
- Shyness: eyes=lots of side-glances.
- For calm and tranquility: eyes=mild, face=composed, and the body=relaxed repose.
- Violent grief beating with hands, stamping or the feet, and running about distracted.
- Courage: posture and body/figure=erect and free in its movements, with voice=full and firm.
- Pride: eyes=lofty looks and erect head, firm body, open
- When fearful: voice=weak and trembling, the lips, face and body=shake, and the heart beats violently.
- When dealing with anxiety, dejection, and grief, face=relaxed muscles, downward expression (contraction of the facial muscles) body=visible relaxation of the whole body.
- When serious, earnest, things with gravity and depth are in question: eyebrows=lowered, lips=shut firmly, eyes=vacantly resting on something far
- When expressing positive feelings of love, sympathy, devotion, and kindred feelings, voice pitch=high, eyes=soft/gentle luster, and maybe even a smile.
- When expressing surprise, wonder, and amazement: eyebrows = elevated eyes=open, and a soft, somewhat aspirated voice.
- When dealing with sorrow and grief: corners of the mouth= drawn down.
Here are some example emotions to master and experiment with.
Admiration, Anger, Appeal, Awe, Command, Courage, Cowardice, Defiance, Exasperation, Exultation, Gladness, Hatred, Hope, Indignant command, Joy, Miscellaneous, Patriotism, Resignation, Reverence, Sadness, Scorn, Sublimity, Surprise, Terror, Threat, Triumph.