Posted on Jun 06, 2007 | Comments 0
Are you upset that you do not have a lot of friends? It can be difficult for some people to make friends.
Some people have a personality that attracts people to them and they seem really popular, but even the popular ones worry about who is truly their friend.
How Many Are There Who Can Really Help You
You need not have to worry about the number when it comes to friends. You should worry about how many of your associates would actually be there to help bail you out of a jam.
You should be considered with the people who you make friends with.
You don’t want to be friends with people who seem needy. They have a particular behavior that might hinder you from having other friendships or even relationships. There is a famous saying, which states that you can’t choose your family, but you can pick your friends.
When it comes to picking your friends you need to choose people worthy of your friendship. You don’t want to associate yourself with people who have criminal behavior or who has serious issues with addictions.
When You are in a New Place
When you are in a new place, you will want to make your first connection, the right connection. If you are going to meet new people are you are going to have to go to spots that you would usually want to hang out and try striking up a conversation.
You can start out with humor or you can start off with a “hello”. It is easier to keep the conversation going if you strike up a conversation with someone who you have something in common. Soon you can have a bond and then a friendship.
You can always start online when it comes to places to meet new people. However, you need to make sure that you meet new people online in a safe way. Ask them to go out with you and a group of friends or co-workers. You can ask them to do things like bowling or shopping.
The first thing though is to connect with the person. You will want them to be interested in some of the same stuff that you life, but they can still be unique and dissimilar from you.
Meeting People Directly
The only thing is that you don’t want to meet friends online and then meet in person right away. You need to establish a bond before you allow new people in your life. Once you have been hanging out with someone for awhile, make sure that you have a connection with them.
Before you go into a best buds relationship, you need to make sure that you feel secured in the friendship.
You need to ensure that you choose your friends wisely. You don’t want to have them running away when you actually need them. You need to make sure that you know that they are going to stay with you when times get tough. If you are going to make friends, you might as well make lasting friendships.
As You Become Older
It is difficult to make friends once you get older. It’s also harder to let friends go. If you are willing to make friends with a person, then you need to be sure that it’s something that you want in your life.
You don’t want to be with a person who is needy, who continually needs your approval, because no friendship should hinder you from having another.
You want more support from friends as you get older, but it shouldn’t be to the point where you are getting on their nerves. You need to ensure this is a friendship that you would want to pursue.
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