Posted on Feb 02, 2009 | Comments 1
There can be as many good behaviors as bad as far as students are concerned, and it is vital for parents and educators to be aware of what these are, and how they can be managed.
One thing to remember, however, is that no matter what labels may be applied to each behavior; one is labeling the behavior and not the child.
All children misbehave for some reason, like for example, for attention, or for revenge against a slight, or perhaps because they feel inadequate.
The student may cheat at this homework, may copy, and may lie about it.Â He may use his over active imagination to fabricate tall tales and tell them with conviction so that he may escape punishment.
He may be prone to exaggeration, and he may never accept blame for his own actions and rather, try to pass them off on someone else. He may be a consummate alibi or excuse maker, coming up with creative and innovative for not having done what he should have, or having done what he should not have.
This student will never complete his homework and class work; he will always have a pat alibi ready and may convince the teachers of its validity every time, if the teacher did not know better.
How does one deal with these and other such behaviors? Here are some tips for you:
- All children do need attention, and one of the most important goal as a parent would be to supply undivided attention to the child whenever he needs it. This in itself is a good behavior management strategy to deal with the problem. However, if the child demands too much attention, which the parent feels unable to provide, then the parent may think of this strategy: ignoring the behavior whenever possible, but offering more attention at other pleasant times with the child, and isolating the child with a â€˜timeoutâ€™ whenever he misbehaves.
- Formulate a reward-punishment strategy. According to this plan, you would offer a reward or bribe to the student, if he behaves well, and give out the previously decided punishment when he misbehaves. According to experts, this method works better than most, perhaps because of its implicit simplicity.Â Make sure that the price for both behaving as well as for misbehaving is high enough to appeal to the child, otherwise this strategy will never work.
- Encourage positive behaviors whenever and wherever you can, and this in itself will reinforce these behaviors as against the negative ones.
Donâ€™t give up; it will all be worth it at the end.
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