Posted on Jul 11, 2006 | Comments 0
When telling your children about values; paint word pictures, use analogies and tell stories. In that case children can effortlessly understand individual values and how these are demonstrated in our lives .
They receive contradictory and confusing messages about values because many adults in their lives do not share the same value system.
Parents who want to see their children grow up happy and successful will want to help their children sort out the right messages from the wrong ones.
Use the following 7 steps as you share your value system with your children.
1. Explore the values.
Use variety of teaching methods that are helpful for your childrenâ€™s, inviting discussions about values, and allowing healthy debates.
The more children understand individual values and how these are demonstrated in our lives, the more likely they are to espouse these values.
2. Tell your children what your values are.
Learn to state clearly and briefly what you believe and how these values influence decisions in your life. When telling your children about your values, paint word pictures, use analogies, and tell stories.
Have your children tell you what you said to make sure that you have communicated clearly.
3. Explain the values politely.
Telling children to be kind, generous, loving, polite, or patient does not give them sufficient information about what you expect.
Instead, describe to your children the behaviors that demonstrate those qualities. Let your children know that when they behave in these ways, you are pleased with their choices.
4. Before telling your values, first you identify your own values.
After you can teach your children, you need to be clear about what you want them to learn. First you plan the complete list of qualities.
Donâ€™t take a casual approach to this important parental responsibility. Take the time to develop a complete list of those qualities you plan to teach your children. When telling your values to children, first you identify your values.
5. What you want your children to say and do.
Your choices and commitment to values determines and shapes the kind of person you are becoming. You will want your children to observe you as a living model of the values you teach.
6. Strengthen values through games.
Your children learn a lot about life as they play. Learning about values is not a boring, academic activity. Be creative and you will find many ways to make learning a game.
7. Apply your values in everyday experiences.
Clarify that choices reveal values. The key to transient on values is to help children see how those values apply to daily life. For example, a person who does a kind action for an alien demonstrates that kindness is one of his or her values.
The situations may be real, on television, in a story you are reading, or something that happened in the past. Look for and use teachable moments that provide an opportunity to choose between right and wrong, between good and bad.
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