Posted on Sep 28, 2006 | Comments 0
When it comes to your children, meditation and motivation can go hand in hand.
Meditate on what you want your children to do, how do you want them to behave and how do you improve their learning aptitude.
You will see in what areas they can be motivated easily, when you have been more exposed to them.
In order to make you more attuned to what others around you are thinking and feeling, just being more tuned in to your inner self.
This will in turn, enable you to figure out what will motivate your child the most to get them to do what you need them to do.
By means of meditation, we can allow ourselves to listen to the sounds around us and relax our mind and body. Can you perceive sound what your children are saying? Can you interpret their body language or their eyes?
What is Meditation?
We should look at what meditation is and then learn what will motivate your kids to what you want and need them to do. Meditation is not just a technique; itâ€™s a way of being.
When dealing with children you might want to calm you chaotic mind and that will help you to deal with the every day life of child rearing. Meditation is not a way of controlling oneâ€™s thoughts.
What meditation is found to be an inner gesture that makes the heart and mind be aware of the present, no matter what is going on around you.
One of the best years my oldest son had in school was when he was able to earn â€œdollarsâ€ to consume at their school store. Bought from a wholesaler, parents gave items or small prizes.
The items were not large. However, there was at least one big-ticket item. This gave them extra enticement to do extra work to be paid more â€œdollarsâ€ and ultimately earn the big prize.
It was my sonâ€™s best year because he got â€œdollarsâ€ for behavior, being quiet in class, doing homework, and reading books. He did earn his big prize.
What motivates your children?
So, what does motivate your children? This will vary from child to child. What works with one may not work with their sibling. What motivated my children was praise.
The better they acted or did in school, the more praise I gave them. Negative talk is not a motivator. You can find something to praise them for; did they get up without being told to twice? Itâ€™s praise time.
Did they bring home a good report card? Its praise time again. You will soon know when praise can be used as a motivator.
Motivators are to let them work toward a goal. Is there something special they want? Is there an area that needs to be improved on? Set them a goal and let them work toward that goal in getting that special something they have picked out.
My grandsonâ€™s objective is to buy a guitar. Every time he gets a good report card, he gets a financial reward for each good grade. He also gets an allowance that he has to earn. His goal is to get all of his regular tasks done so he can earn all of his allowance and not just a part.
Motivation for Homework
In some homes, motivation to get homework done is a real big area. How do you motivate to get that homework done? Do you inform them when their homework is done; they can meddle with their friends? Talk on the phone? Maybe play video games? Again, with each child, itâ€™s different.
One of my sons had to have his homework done before he could have an afternoon snack. That was a big motivator for him since he loved his afternoon snack.
In my house as both my children loved to read, that was usually no problem, but in the summer when they could read and receive McDonalds certificates, that motivated them to read even more! One year it was tickets for the areaâ€™s softball team.
For girls, it was a little different that they would enjoy. So as to get student to read books, the school, and public library has a great motivational program.