Posted on Jun 14, 2006 | Comments 0
Their are many qualities that collectively compose happiness, like having love in our lives, of course, a few other important qualities count, too, such as self-esteem, peace of mind, fulfillment, and confidence. But the list isn’t as long as you might think. Happiness is profound, but simple.
People often presume that these are qualities you’re born with. Not always. But you can acquire them – by mastering the use of the happiness tools and avoiding the fear-inspired happiness traps. When people acquire these qualities, it gives them a lift like no other. They get out of bed in the morning after a peaceful sleep, eager to tackle their challenges. They can’t wait to share the experiences of their daily lives with their families, coworkers, and friends. They don’t hop from one worry to the next, fixating on their bank accounts, their bosses, their waistlines, or their status.
With this new outlook, people invariably fall in love with life, and often begin to feel “like a kid again.” That’s natural. In childhood, our spirits were unbridled and unbroken. We still had our neurological network of fear – our bogeymen under the bed – but our spirits led the way.
As we get older, though, and have to solve all our own problems, we become increasingly obsessed with what it takes to survive in this world. Our basic balance begins to shift – from spirit to survival – and we lose our love for life. Ultimately, we find that the things we have to do to survive are often the things that end up killing us. But if we find a way to keep the qualities of happiness, the spirit stays strong. Life can still hurt us, but it cannot destroy what is in us.
Below are 4 happiness qualities that can help you choose a more peaceful life:
- Altruism: Unhappy people are usually too self-absorbed to be altruistic. But happy people know how good it feels. It connects you to others, gives you a purpose, and gets you outside yourself.
- Perspective: Unhappy people tend to see things in absolute terms and often can’t distinguish small problems from big ones. Happy people see shades of gray, and they know how to prioritize their problems and turn them into possibilities. They don’t lose sight of life’s big picture during bad times.
- Humor: Humor is a shift of perception that gives people the guts to go on when life looks its worst. There is an abandonment in it that is close to enlightenment. It lifts suffering off the heart and hands it to the intellect and spirit, which alone have the power to heal it.
- Purpose: Happy people know why they’re here on earth. They’re doing the things they were meant to do. If they died today, they would be satisfied with their lives.
3 Ways You Can Instill Success & Values within Your Children
- Help your children build a more positive self-image in terms of values. Encourage them to share how they see themselves in these areas and how they can improve. Then discuss how these improvements might change their self-image. Help your children paint an exciting and vivid mental picture.
- Tell your children stories about how your heroes or your friends came to accept and own specific values. As you read or hear personal stories, take notes that will help you explain your values to your children in terms they can understand.
- Create a family values chart. Place values across the top and the names of each family member down the left side. Make copies so you can use one chart each week. As you notice a family member demonstrating a value, put a hash mark in the appropriate square on the chart. Encourage a little friendly competition to see who can get the most hash marks in a week. You also can affirm the person who gets the most hash marks under a particular value or the one who gets hash marks under each of the values. Allow family members to recommend one another for hash marks.