Posted on Jan 19, 2013 | Comments 0
Divorce is a stressful time for all couples. Often, those going through such a process may find themselves so caught up in the lengthy legal processes that they don’t realize how the divorce will affect them or their children.
Once the paperwork has gone through and you have received your divorce papers, you may be in a state of shock.
It is often the case that people simply do not know what to do with themselves, trying hard to carry on their regular routine when their life has drastically changed.
Below are some useful hints and tips to help you cope with your divorce.
Finding a support group is the first step to learning to cope with your divorce. Don’t suffer in silence – turn to your family or friends for support.
If you feel that your loved ones just don’t understand what you’re going through, or you don’t want to share intimate details of your marriage breakdown with them, perhaps look elsewhere for support.
There are hundreds of centres or weekly events for people who are newly divorced or even for those who have been divorced for many years.
Groups such as this can offer first-hand advice and help you see the benefits to being divorced.
If you marriage has come to an end due to you or your children experiencing domestic violence then you may wish to seek professional counselling to help you and your family deal with your traumatic experience.
Children have a tendency to blame themselves when a marriage ends and often will shut you out rather than express their feelings.
If it’s possible, ensure that they keep a healthy relationship with your ex-partner and never let issues with your former partner get in the way of their relationship with your children.
Little things like bad-mouthing your ex-partner in front of your children or making sarcastic comments around them can have massive negative influences on your child’s relationship with their other parent.
Don’t be selfish. Remember: it’s their child too.
Finding a hobby is one of the best ways to cope with your recent divorce.
In the absence of a partner, you may find that you have plenty of spare time which you simply don’t know what to do with. Rather than spending that time thinking about what could’ve been, find yourself a hobby, something that you’ve always wanted to do, but couldn’t due to family commitments.
You will be surprised how fast you find your life turning around when you finally have the chance to do something independently.
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