Lose 50 pounds in three months, save $10,000 in one year or turn your relationship with your teenager around.
They are large goals, lofty and worthwhile, but huge steps, which need a remarkable amount of commitment. How can you use little motivational steps to turn around hopelessness? First letâ€™s look at what leads us to fall into hopelessness. We have our goal but it looks so gigantic!
Letâ€™s look at the problem of weight loss. Spring is on its way and I anticipate being able to wear the clothes I wore last year. That means I need to lose X amount of weight and couple that with a possible exercise program for me.
I hate to exercise; there, Iâ€™ve said it. I donâ€™t have the time or the leaning to go to an aerobics class, gym, or health club. I havenâ€™t found any motivation that has made me alter my mind.
So, rather than following into hopelessness or despair, how can I turn that around? Here are some tips to help you take little steps towards your goal and turning hopelessness around.
- The important fact to keep in mind is savings can start with the first quarter you put in a jar. You donâ€™t have to open a CD or start a savings account with a vast amount of money. Start small; put all of your change in a jar at the end of the day. By doing this, my husband and I have always had an organized sum to consume on our annual vacation. One year, we were not able to go on vacation so we used our coins as a Christmas fund. We started small and have now learned to regulate our habits to put a certain amount of money into a savings account at the bank. This is our crisis fund, and it has come in handy a few times. Whether youâ€™re saving for retirement or to send your children to college, saving money is a big goal. Maybe youâ€™re saving for an unusual vacation or to have fun in a special anniversary in a big way.
- Hereâ€™s a big goal. Turning around a relationship with a family member, teenager, or spouse. More than likely, this relationship has suffered for a longtime. You know that it will be a gigantic task to turn it back into a positive relationship. It can look desperate, but it doesnâ€™t have to be. Small steps that are reachable will keep you from falling into total misery and giving up on the relationship. You canâ€™t sensibly expect to say one day â€œIâ€™m going to have a new open relationship with my teenagerâ€ when you havenâ€™t been conversing with each other at all. Start with a small step, like listening to their ideas or thoughts.
- Listen! Think before you speak and control your emotions. My son had the irritating habit of lowering his voice the longer I talked to him, the result was, I was shouting by the end of the conversation. He would then look at me and ask, â€œMom why are you shouting at me?â€ Bingo, he had pushed the correct button and he knew it. When I learned to keep my voice even and not raise the volume, we were able to correspond in a more meaningful way. Small steps can produce larger ones. If your teenage daughter is wearing clothes that you think are badly chosen, itâ€™s going to do you no good to, constantly pester at her. With small changes only, positive reinforcement can start out. You can praise her on her hair and how nice it looks that day, or if she is wearing a nicer outfit than usual, use that as an occasion to praise and give positive support. Be sincere! A teenager or anyone else who is on the defensive can always notice false statements. I taught my kindergarten Sunday school class this: If you canâ€™t say something nice, donâ€™t say anything at all. I think that is true for many of our relationship situations.
- Keep in mind to make small goals that you can practically expect to reach. Weight loss experts suggest setting a goal of losing 1-2 pounds a week. This is healthier for your body and helps you create a timeline for losing the weight you are eager to lose. Letâ€™s say you have three months to that long expected cruise. That gives you 12 weeks to change your eating habits and start an exercise program. You can begin with a simple walk around the block and removing the sweets in your diet. Donâ€™t be discouraged if you miss a day of walking, or you fall down and have that favorite dessert when you go out to eat. Give yourself some room to commit mistakes. Thatâ€™s why itâ€™s more sensible to plan to lose 1-2 pounds a week, than a large goal that looks impractical to reach. Setting a goal of eight pounds in a month just looks and feels more sensible and it is!
So, donâ€™t be disheartened, just look at smaller pieces of the big picture. It will ultimately come together and your goals can be attained.