Posted on Jun 14, 2006 | Comments 0
According to experts, dependent personality disorders are common. These types of personalities undergo symptoms including, incompetence to take their own decisions. In order to take a decision they will often depend on others around them. Dependent personality types will often avoid responsibility and will rely on others to handle their lives and tasks. This type of personality will avoid starting tasks, except someone is there to guide them through the process.
Dependent Personality Disorders
Dependent personality types will frequently tolerate abuse, neglect, including cheating of spouse. They are often depressed and will consume alcohol or drugs to ease their anxiety and stress. The person is often passive, will not defend him or herself, and is afraid of rejection, punishment, and so forth. It is significant to evaluate these types of personality and not confuse them with conventional women that have obedient traits or personalities.
In most cases, the two are different in the sense the traditional woman will not bear anyone going against their beliefs and will defend their person without thinking twice about. In Histrionic and Borderline Personality types dependent personality types are found, but the difference is Histrionic and Borderline Personality types will influence, control, abuse, and act out in behaviors that are hazardous to others. They are very manipulating and will murder in some instances.
The dependent personality type is not hostile and can hold a relationship, while borderline and histrionic types cannot. Dependent personality types often need enduring treatment since the underlying source of the symptoms is fear due to undo punishment, neglect or abuse. The person probably lived in a wild household and was subjected to cruel punishment. The decisions taken by the persons are dismissed by their parents after finding some reason, although most dependent personality types will rely on their parents.
Dependency on Parents
For example if the patient is busy and a sudden breakup occurs the mother may say, I told you so. I knew he was no good. The man may have been an excellent person, just left simply because he could not handle the disorder. The questions like is it ok to go to the store may be asked by the dependent personality type to their mom or dad. They often stick close to the sources that initiated the disorder from the beginning. Therefore, we are coping with co-dependency and dependent personality problems.
The co-dependency is the parents that will not let the patient to move ahead to independence. In order to help the patient separate his or her self from the patients and work toward relying on self, we have to apply a technique that will work. I see no room for medication in this diagnose, since behaviors and not medical issues affect the patient. We need to get going by helping the patient see that fear is the cause of the problem, and then search the mind to locate the source that caused or promoted the fear.
We can do this with talk therapy, since the patient has all the answers, yet is not aware of the cause. We know that the patient was abandoned as a child and possibly harshly punished often, including scolding. It would be helpful to get the parents in therapy to help them with their mental problems, but generally the patient is to blame along with many for his or her problem and culprits are never an excuse unfortunately.
Now, we start by discussing with the problems and unraveling the information, gathering roots that instigated the patientâ€™s behaviors. It is vital to remain consistent to help the patient see that he or she can defend her or his individuality without being punished for doing so. We should never raise our voices or attempt to control the patient, rather allow the patient room to speak his or her mind freely. A welcoming method for opening up the patients mind is to ask questions that contain the problem.
For example, Betty what do you think is going on inside your mind that is causing you problems? Do not let the patient to blame his or her self, since this is only contributing to the dependency. Allow the patient room to take the floor and hold it for the time allowed.
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