Posted on Mar 23, 2007 | Comments 0
In general, self improvement is aimed towards making life a more enjoyable experience.
Therefore, people’s self improvement goals should include the relationships they have within their lives and make a concerted effort for mending any strained or broken relationships.
Life goes along so much easier, nevertheless, when there are no major conflicts happening.
Deciding which Relationship is Worthy
Deciding which relationships need saving, and which relationships are simply not worth the trouble is the first step. It is good idea to have a thorough analysis of relationships because there are indeed some people who are not essentially good influences, or who spend a lot of time draining energy from people.
Maybe there is a friend had a minor spat with a person and has since lost touch; this is another relationship which is probably worth saving.
Perhaps once-close friend in a person’s life who has simply lost contact; this is a relationship worth saving.
Conversely, if there is a relationship gone awry from a major dispute then the person should analyze the situation to see if this is a friendship which once meant enough to where it would be an asset now.
If the dispute was with a person who was continually taking and never giving, though, then maybe the goal should be to simply let it go instead of mending the relationship.
Every relationship does not deserve mending, and rekindling a toxic relationship is counterproductive if self improvement is to make life happier.
The process can be rather simple for relationships which are worth saving. An invitation extended to meet for lunch or coffee can do wonders if it is a matter of simply having lost contact with someone.
It may take little more things to do if the parting was a little more dramatic, such as after a disagreement or a romantic break-up.
Since meeting up with someone after some time to demand an apology is tacky, the initiating person should be ready to apologize for whatever disagreement happened to stifle the relationship.
In an effort to rekindle the relationship it may be worth it to simply admit fault, and move on even if a person feels as though they were not completely at fault.
Certainly, this does not mean that a person should be a doormat and admit fault for things which they had no fault for whatsoever.
Instead, it is to say that sometimes for silly reasons, relationships are disrupted, and sometimes one of the people from the relationship finally has to bite the bullet and extend a peace offering.
It can be an important step on the path to self improvement to mend relationships. Less strife in a person’s life opens the door to all sorts of positive things, and many people find that the act of mending a relationship can be cathartic.
If there is still a chance that the friendship can be rekindled, there is no reason not to try to mend a once-valuable relationship.