Posted on Aug 02, 2006 | Comments 0
Irrespective of the level, abuse persons in an abusive relationship often remain with their partners, since the hater has their self-esteem and confidence torn down so badly that they suppose that no one else wants them.
Even if they do have a slice of dignity left, they are often threatened that if they leave the abuser will injure or kill a family member, friend, or the partner. For the partners of abusive relationships, the law is no help, or offers little help.
Rather, prior to acting upon the crime, in most states the cops have allowed murder. This happens too rarely, thus the law is not in the favor of the person considering their partner will change, rather they are in no oneâ€™s favor but the killer him self.
For every word on this topic, History will backup, thus I am not holding back any punches.
Abusive Relationship â€“ No change in mind of the partner
The sufferer of an abusive relationship often loves their partner and hopes that someday the person will change, which it never happens. The other component in the relationship has a deep buried hatred and uses the mechanisms that humans need to control his or her mate.
The hate is often hidden deep and renders itself when, an emotion is touched by the mate. The person will ever cross out in public, attacking another person of the same gender, but it does happen.
â€œI am sorry, it wonâ€™t happen again. I was just mad. â€ is what often heard by the mate showing love to his or her lover. The person with hate buried inside often makes excuses for his or her behavior and the partner often believes the lies all through the relationship.
What constitutes a Good Relationship?
A good relationship is based on trust, love, and faith and sharing. When one partner is giving more than the other partner this is not love.
Someone is going to get hurt, when one partner trusts that his or her partner is faithful and the partner is out spreading it around like the plague.
These days, it is next to impossible to find pure love. Good men often find women that treat them ill, while bad men are mistreating women badly that their views of men weaken over time. Good women often discover men that cheat, lie, or take them for granted; therefore finding a good relationship nowadays is next to impossible.
Characteristics of an Abusive Relationship?
Thus, if you are in an abusive relationship you may want to consider what love and relationship really means. If you are believing that your mate will change you are killing valuable time and co-depending him or her in their ungodly behaviors.
Love does not hurt, but love makes a person feel hope, secure, confident, and ready to take chances in life. When times are hard love offers hugs, kisses, respect, trust, and a hand.
In general, this item is targeted to women, but men are abused too, thus anyone in an abusive relationship is wise to leave now and find true love and relationships that will survive a long time.
To mention in one piece, abusive relationships have too many variables, since hope is available, for the most part, they must be mentioned. Contrary to love and relationships, abusive relationships are built on love and hate.
Many forms of Abusive Relationships
Abusive relationships come in many forms. In other words, while the mate is the lover, doctors, lawyers, cops, judges, poor, or other class of people can be the hater. When he or she feels angry, the person filled with hate will frequently use the mate as a punching bag. Since the anger is buried deep, the partner can trigger the mate under any circumstance. In other words, a wrong word that is not wrong to someone else could ignite an emotion that strikes out at the target.
Since someone always gets hurt, love, and hate relationships are the worse kind. According to statistics show every 3 minutes a woman is battered by her mate, thus in some cases killed. The unending problem needs a resolve, because lives are at risk, so, I am writing this item in hopes they someone will listen and get assistance now.
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