Posted on Oct 05, 2009 | Comments 1
Many of us are in toxic relationships and we arenâ€™t aware of them.
Additionally many of us are taking verbal abuse from people and we arenâ€™t aware of it.
On the flipside maybe we are aware of these happenings however feel we have to deal with the situations because of who the offender is.
Many times the offender could be an in-law such as a mother-in-law or sister-in-law and we do not want to stir the pot so to speak.
Or maybe the culprit is a friend we have had for a very long time and we just do not feel like going through the confrontation process because we know this person will never change.
These people love us and care for us and we usually consider ourselves very close to these people, however they still make snide comments that bring us down sometimes and we let them get away with it.
For example, someone lost their job and called their mother with the news. Their mother responded with â€œhuh. Oh really?â€ and the tone inferred this person had done something to deserve being laid off. This person refused to take into consideration the fact that we are in an extreme economic recession.
These snide comments and hurtful tones can bring us and our self-esteem down to a level that shouldnâ€™t be at.
Because we are all in these relationships and many of us do not have the strength to rid ourselves of them or tell the people how we feel there are certain things you can do to maintain your self-esteem and self-confidence even though we have this going on over at the side of our lives.
First of all whenever someone says something snide or hurtful remember it is them and not you that have the problem.
You know what your flaws are and you know what characteristics and personality traits you need to work on.
Thirdly an appropriate response to them would be to kill them with kindness. This will make them see the error of their ways and hopefully discourage them from saying mean things to you in the future. Being kind always makes you seem like the bigger person because you are.
Another way to handle the situation is to end the conversation whenever the person does these things.
Ultimately you can defend yourself when the person offends you as well.
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