Posted on Apr 15, 2006 | Comments 0
Everyone feared of report card day in school and you need to buckle down and study if you fear to make your own relationship report card. You need to score in the high nineties to achieve an A+, when you rank all of the aspects of your relationship between you and your spouse.
Marriage Relationship Report Card
Consider creating a â€˜relationship report cardâ€™ with your spouse and after that you will see positive change in your relationship. Relationship report card should not turn into a â€˜blame gameâ€™, when you try to complete it.
It should open the lines of communication and offer some invaluable insight into your relationship about the need for changes and improvement.
Pre Guidelines For Grading The Marriage Relationship Report Card
It is a good idea to have some pre-set guidelines as to what each grade means, when you consider how you want to grade your partner and yourself. For instance, an â€˜Aâ€™ might mean that your partner isnâ€™t perfect, but obviously excelling. It could also mean that your partner is loving, enthusiastic, attentive, and satisfying.
A â€˜Bâ€™ could stand for a partner who is always trying, enhanced than most and constantly works on enhancement. A â€˜Câ€™ might mean average or acceptable. â€˜Câ€™sâ€™ always indicate plenty of room for improvement.
â€˜Dâ€™sâ€™ and â€˜Fâ€™sâ€™ should be reserved for unhappy circumstances or even hopeless ones. â€˜Dâ€™sâ€™ indicate never hopeless while â€˜Fâ€™sâ€™ require more than just a relationship evaluation.
You need to focus on why you are giving or receiving those grades and commit to some kind of action in order to change and improve that grade, if you find that you and your spouse have areas with a â€˜Dâ€™ or an â€˜Fâ€™. It might involve a dedication on both spouses, but if both are willing to work at it the grade is already moving higher.
Grading The Marriage Relationship Report Card
The marriage relationship report card should be graded the same way your school papers were graded with a number grade, when you begin working on it (ex. 80%, 50%, 95% and so on).
Grade both your partner and yourself in areas like affection, ability to resolve conflict, attitude, commitment, communication skills, consideration level, thinking as a â€˜coupleâ€™, sensitivity, flexibility, generosity, creativity, friendship and gift giving skills.
Continue to assess your honesty levels, listening skills, household management skills, patience, lovemaking, romance abilities and practice, playfulness, self-esteem, self-awareness, sense of humor, empathy, tolerance and spontaneity, once youâ€™ve completed that list.
Feel free to add and evaluate at your discretion, if you feel that there are any other areas relevant to your particular relationship. Be sure to both participate in grading, when you and your spouse are grading each other.
You can work out your own particulars, but make sure you both have a say in both of your grades. Compare and talk about your grades and why your partner believes you deserve a particular grade.
Youâ€™ll be surprised at how your partner sees your relationship and youâ€™ll have priceless insight into how he or she sees your role in the relationship. Just because you may not have earned an A+ in one area doesnâ€™t mean that you canâ€™t celebrate.
On every â€˜Bâ€™, pat yourself (and your partner) on the back and talk about ways you can improve on any â€˜Câ€™sâ€™ and â€˜Dâ€™sâ€™.
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