Posted on Feb 24, 2007 | Comments 0
Communicate with Each Other
Communication is the first thing to stop when couples are having troubles in a relationship.
It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuilding relationships, while communication was the first to stop, it now needs to be the first to start.
This will require that both individuals let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind. Until you talk with each other, healing in the relationship cannot start.
Make an agreement that you will talk about anything and everything and that you will listen, really listen.
This does not mean that you will agree with everything, which is perfectly fine. On the other hand, do not yell if you do not agree, rather, the two of you need to peacefully talk about the issue and together, work out a solution. This is hard work but within a very short time, you will both feel much better, individually and as a couple.
A Night of Passion
Intimacy and passion in relationships is not only vital but also healthy. Couples need to enjoy being together in an intimate way. The last thing when relationships are troubled, either person wants is to be sexual or passionate with each other.
However, this is a part of the healing and rebuilding of the relationship and it plays a crucial part even though it might be awkward in the beginning. Make your intimate time together special.
Surprise your spouse with a warm bubble bath, lighted candles, soft music, and a bottle of wine, or reserve a nice romantic evening at a local hotel to include a amazing candlelit dinner, fine wine, and a beautiful room.
Host a Dinner Party
Start a new tradition of organizing a dinner party every other month or two and inviting many of you and your spouseâ€™s friends. Set up board games that everyone will enjoy, have some light and lively music playing, and plan to have a blast.
It is a great way to reduce stress by spending time with friends in this kind of setting. Couples get along better when stress is low. This is a amazing way to interact with each otherâ€™s friends as a couple.
Celebrate your Spouseâ€™s Birthday
In general, birthdays become less celebrated as people grow older. Gifts are quickly given, meals eaten, and it is over. Take some time to plan something very special for your spouseâ€™s next birthday.
Make this a true celebration of their life as a way of showing your love and enjoyment. Every person, even adults, like attention and love to be appreciated. Whether it may be a surprise party or not, but your spouse will be impressed that you went to all the effort just for them.
Plan a Secret Getaway
Plan a nice weekend getaway to some place off the beaten track where you can enjoy some privacy. A charming bed and breakfast quaint cottage would be the best idea.
Scout out the area ahead of time and select a few things that the two of you would like to do in the area but just be sure to leave plenty of time for you to enjoy some alone time.
Order a nice bottle of wine or some hot cappuccino and relax in front of the fire! Make this a romantic weekend where you can regenerate your love.
Surprise your spouse with a late-night gourmet meal if he has to work late and you know he had a bad day. When you hear him arrive home, greet him in new, sexy lingerie, a warm kiss, and wonderful hot meal.
He will fall in love with you all over again for this wonderful greeting after he picks himself up off the floor.
If it is the woman who is coming home, after giving her a lingering kiss, have her join you in the dining room where the table is set with soft glowing candles and a wonderful meal.
Have an envelope lying by her plate that when opened, she will read, â€œThis certificate is good for one 30 minute massage after dinner.â€ This is how you keep romance alive!
Surprise Your Spouse with â€œJust Becauseâ€ Gifts
Give your spouse gifts â€œjust because.â€ It needs not to be an expensive gift. For instance, one woman had a miniature dish collection in her kitchen. Her husband came home and told her that he had a gift for her.
Holding out her hand, he gently placed in her hand a miniature porcelain cup with her name neatly written in blue ink. She knew that this cup might just cost no more than $2.00 but the thought that he would take the time to find something she enjoyed, was worth $1 million. The small gifts packed with thought are far more appreciated.
Say it with Words
Surprise your spouse with little notes found in unpredicted places. Place a loving note somewhere in their suitcase if your spouse travels for work. Perhaps they have a long commute to work.
If so, slip a note saying, â€œI love you,â€ in their CD case where you know they will find it. Another recommendation is sticking a note on the bathroom mirror so this will be the first thing seen in the morning. Be creative and have some fun with this.
Initially, cuddling is usually a part of their everyday existence when couples start dating. However, the cuddling stops as the relationship progresses or after children enter the picture. Take some time just to cuddle.
If your spouse is sitting on the couch watching a movie, or laying in bed reading, scoot close and tell them that you just want to cuddle. In this way, both of you will feel secure and loved.
Breakfast in Bed
When was the last time you or your spouse were served breakfast in bed? Not at all? On a Saturday or Sunday, when nothing special is planned, get up a little early and fix their favorite breakfast.
As an added bonus, include the morning newspaper. Even though, your spouse may be shocked, you can be guaranteed that this gesture of love will be cherished.