Posted on Dec 07, 2006 | Comments 0
Our human bodies are programmed to have emotions, to signal – both internally and externally – when something magnificent happens and when something awful happens.
A love relationship will almost certainly comprise both of these ends of feeling.
What are Emotions?
Emotions are real physical events, identical to hunger or thirst, with your entire autonomic nervous system moving into action.
On the inside, adrenalin flows into your bloodstream, your heartbeat and blood pressure soar, your breathing rate rises, your nervous system is flooded with sugar to give you energy, your digestive system slows down so as not to waste that energy and your coagulation rate goes up in case there’s blood spilled.
Classic Six Emotions
It’s relatively easy to spot when either you or your partner is flooded with emotion, mainly the ‘classic six’ emotions that have the same body language all over the world, from Japan to Argentina: happiness, sadness, anger, disgust, surprise and fear.
By means of your smiles, you’ll signal happiness to each other through; sadness by means of your tears; anger by means of your raised voices or strong gestures. (However, you may never see real fear in each other except you’re involved in a disturbing incident together.)
Where real body language skill comes out, however, is not in spotting these noticeable signs of emotion, but in noticing the much more subtle manifestations of feeling that everyone experiences every day.
Satisfaction, regret, irritation, distaste, confusion and anxiety are the subdued versions of the advanced feelings. If you are able to spot the signs of these in yourself and your partner near the beginning, you’ll be well equipped to deal with them in you both.
The first sign of an emotion you may well observe in yourself will be some kind of internal rush of energy. This is since emotions were originally designed as a way of resourcing you to handle an outside threat, in addition to signaling to others in your ‘tribe’ that you required help with whatever was affecting you.
Each Emotion Will Have Its Own Effect Within Your Body
Corresponding to this, each particular emotion will have its own particular effect within your body.
Anxiety might make itself felt by a churning in your stomach that is so common that it has an exclusive word in English – ‘butterflies.’
You may also get tightness down the centerline of, your body, a faster heartbeat, a dry mouth, a little cold sensation and possibly a sudden urge to go to the toilet.
If you are experiencing regret, you’ll feel your eyes prickle, a vague forerunner of tears; your nose or throat may feel to some extent blocked, and there’ll naturally be a heavy feeling down your centerline.
Sudden tingling, a movement in your stomach, a rushing in your head or hands, a sudden clenching of your jaw is the earliest sign of irritation.
Know about Your Emotions
Be familiar with your emotions as you feel them day by day. That way, not only do you gain more communication with your own body, factually encouraging it to ‘tell’ you when it thinks there is something to be wary of or angry about, but you also have more chance of reacting to your emotions, which is a skill useful not only in love relationships but also all through your life.
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