Archive for the 'Love & Relationships' Category

Follow Your Instincts

Most of the times, people will simply keep going in the same direction when things are going in a wrong direction with the hope that things work themselves out. The result is generally negative.

Rather, listen to your gut feelings, your inner instincts. If you believe that something is bothering your spouse or not right in your relationship, keep it between you and your spouse and work things out as a couple.

Make Eye Contact

You may not think this is important, but think back to the first time you saw your now spouse. More than likely, the first interaction was through eye contact.

If your spouse is giving a speech and you are there to offer support, attentively look at them, making directly eye contact and offer a warm reassuring smile, or if you are having dinner during the holidays with a large group of family and friends, glance over to your spouse and give them a seductive wink. Eyes can say a lot!

Be Creative

The words, “I love you,” are always welcomed but why not add some creativity to the way you tell your spouse you love them.

New Adventures

Arrange for the two of you to try something new together.

If the two of you like the fine arts, audition for roles in a local community theater.

Enter yourselves into some type of physical competition if you are both the athletic type.

Perhaps you like to travel. If so, arrange for a short trip to some place exotic that you have never been before.

Special Music

Select various songs that your spouse would enjoy and have them either recorded on a cassette or burned on a CD that can be enjoyed while driving to and from work. To add a little spice, record a few secret messages every few songs just reminding them how much you love and appreciate them.

Getting Married

Do something unique and fun if your relationship has moved to a set wedding date and the countdown has started. Visit a candy store and have 30-miniature candy hearts made, each with a special message of love.

Everyday present your spouse with the suitable candy heart. As you get down to the final days before the wedding, they might read something like, “Only two more days”, “Tomorrow: The Big Day”, “I love you, your wife (or husband).”

Photo Album

Create a photo album for your spouse as a wonderful keepsake.

Include the parents or siblings to come up with some special childhood and teenage pictures.

Include family, friends, special occasions, and times of the two of you together.

Whenever, the two of you feel as though you are drifting apart or taking one another for granted, pull out the photo album as a reminder of the incredible person in your life.

The Art of Gift Giving

Everyone loves to be given a gift, particularly as a surprise or “just because.” Just keep in mind that while giving gifts is a beautiful thing to do for the person you love, there are five key basics for making your spouse know that you are giving just because you love them.

• Firstly, put some thought into the gift. Do not just pick up something at the last minute so you are not empty handed.
• Secondly, make the effort. Even if you have a busy schedule, be sure to schedule time to shop.
• Thirdly, give with the right attitude. You give because you appreciate and love, not because you want something back.

12-Month Calendar

Create a 12-month calendar with pictures of special times spent between the two of you and give it to your spouse as a special gift.

Arrange the pictures to coordinate with the months and then as a Christmas or birthday gift, or just as a special surprise, present it to your loved one.

Something Handmade

You do not have to be a world-renowned artist to make something homemade and special for the love of your life.

Even making a special, personalized greeting card would be appreciated and show your spouse that you care enough to take the time required to make something by hand.

Favorite Meal

If your spouse has a meal, that is by far the favorite above everything else, go all out, and prepare everything to order. Put on something nice and a little sexy, light some candles, and have a wonderful surprise waiting before they arrive home.

Day at the Movies

Have a movie marathon some rainy or cold Saturday. Put all your errands and chores on hold and head to your nearest theater. Hit three or four movies and mix it up. Buy the theater popcorn and drinks but sneak your own candy in.

Listen to How You Talk

Most probably you and your spouse have settled into a pattern of speaking to each other while working on your relationship.

It might be with short, blunt answers, heavy sighs as though bothered, or with negative remarks.

Focus on to not only the words you speak, but also the tone in which you speak.

Be positive, cheery, and respond in a way that will confirm to your spouse that you are listening and truly interested – that you have time to listen and communicate.

Moreover, add terms of endearment into your conversation. Rather than “Good morning,” try, “Hi honey, good morning!”

Making Love

A huge part of a successful relationship is intimacy. Choose a book from the bookstore and try to bring a little excitement into your relationship.

Do not be afraid to experiment and learn new and exciting ways to please each other. Keeping intimacy alive is healthy and not a bad thing whatsoever!

Turn the Computer Off

Most of the time, computer becomes a replacement for a lack of something in the relationship. It might be just playing games, surfing, or getting involved with pornographic websites.

Love Means Having to Say You Are Sorry

Say that you are sorry if you make a mistake by doing or saying something that is hurtful or damaging to the relationship.

Many people struggle with these words, even when they know that what they did was wrong. It in fact takes a strong person to say sorry.

Do not wait until you think you have the courage but say it instantly, and with honesty. Too often when couples argue, there is a long period of silence, which in fact makes the anger and tension worse.

You need to let your spouse know instantly that you made a mistake and ask for forgiveness.

Be Yourself

Do not be spurious in your relationship, trying to be someone or something different as a way to please your spouse. Both people need to be themselves and react to things naturally for a relationship to work.

Just imagine if you are actually kind of on the silly side, enjoying life to the fullest. Then you meet a wonderful person who is much more traditional than you are.

Because you are attracted to them, you try to squelch your usual vibrant personality.

Make the Men Feel Good

Here are some recommendations for making the man in your life feel special:

• Flirt with him in public places
• Lavish him with compliments
• Tell him how sexy he is
• Tell him how handsome you find him
• Remind him that he is a wonderful mate, husband, father, whichever applies
• Act jealous once in awhile, even if you are not
• Just once, leave the toilet lid up

Make the Women Feel Good

Just like men, here are some for making the woman love feeling good about recommendations:

• Tell her how beautiful she is
• Compliment her on her many skills (be specific)
• Tell her how much she means to you
• Let her know that she is your best friend
• Let her know that you find her to be sexy
• Show affectionate to her in front of family and friends
• Just once, leave the toilet seat down

That Kiss

Kisses can become lame as couples become comfortable with each other. Get rid of the pecks and get serious with the kisses. The next time, when you both, greet each other, enjoy your kiss and do not be so quick to stop.

Communicate with Each Other

Communication is the first thing to stop when couples are having troubles in a relationship.

It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuilding relationships, while communication was the first to stop, it now needs to be the first to start.

This will require that both individuals let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind. Until you talk with each other, healing in the relationship cannot start.

Make an agreement that you will talk about anything and everything and that you will listen, really listen.

This does not mean that you will agree with everything, which is perfectly fine. On the other hand, do not yell if you do not agree, rather, the two of you need to peacefully talk about the issue and together, work out a solution. This is hard work but within a very short time, you will both feel much better, individually and as a couple.

A Night of Passion

Intimacy and passion in relationships is not only vital but also healthy. Couples need to enjoy being together in an intimate way. The last thing when relationships are troubled, either person wants is to be sexual or passionate with each other.