Posted on Jun 01, 2006 | Comments 0
We can often find the answers to our problems when we evaluate our thoughts and emotions. If you are prone to erupt when your emotions are threatened, it might be you are acting irrationally in most instances.
We are studying a problem, the value of the problem, the solution to fix the problem, and the significance of the problem when we evaluate. When we evaluate our mind slows down and thinks before it acts.
If you are lacking in this area you might want to start practicing now since anger only leads to real problems.
An Example for Controlling Emotions
Some examples can be seen in the following paragraph. Kerry realizes that her job is generating an emotional interruption, simply because her skills succeed the jobs necessities. Kerry realizes that she is underpaid and this is causing another problem in her life.
Kerryâ€™s condition is real, since Kerry realizes what the problems are and they truly exist in her life. Now Kerry can put off and allow the problem to rise rather than reviewing her resources and problem carefully.
Kerry might decide to apply for another position or job while continuing to work at her present job if she decides to evaluate her mind. This will allow her to assume her life and have a steady flow of income while she waits for a better position.
She can then relax after the rush of the moment has ended once she lands a better career. However, if Kerry acts out on her emotions, blows up at the boss and storms out the door. Kerry because of her anger out burst will not have a job, no money, and her future is at risk.
The boss will be called when she lands another job and will likely tell the new employers about Kerryâ€™s behavior problems. Therefore, Kerry did not fix the problem by evaluating her resources and emotions; rather she added fuel to the fire.
As you can see from an example that emotions out of control and anger in action will increase your chances of failure and reduce your way in life.
Decisions are an everyday part of life. You will almost never get off the course of lifeâ€™s journey to success, if you are evaluating your life and making good decisions. On the other hand, we must realize when we are evaluating life that problems will arise and that we all must face the problems head on.
Keeping a good outlook on life can help you to deal with your anger. We can see a way out of trouble if you realize there is no mountain we cannot cross over. Let us evaluate mountains. If we are crossing a mountain, we know we need tools, rope, confidence, and a strategy to climb over.
Likewise, we need tools, strategy confidence and hope to endure the road to recovery if we are dealing with anger. We will only need a rope to hang our self with if we do not learning to manage our emotions and anger properly.
Think of life as a roller coaster ride where there will be bumps along the way. In reality, the ride is intense, exciting and challenging. You are taking control of a rocky condition if you are challenging the potentials by evaluating your anger and emotions.
Again, most our problems are stemmed from our own decisions and if we learn to stop and think before acting we probably will have less problems along the road to life. If you feel like you are loosing control stop and think.
Take a few deep breaths and gather your thoughts and emotions. Review the condition in front of you to see if there is a better way to deal with the problem. The only real way that anger becomes useful is if you are in a condition that is risky and there are no way out.
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