Posted on Apr 15, 2006 | Comments 0
What are the anger symptoms? It can be impossible to define, as everyone is different. However since anger is the same we can sum it up. Whether it is verbally or physically, angry persons will assault others.
When the anger arises, an anger person will slap, hit, punch, threaten, shove, or kick others. They are often aggressive, sarcastic, nagging, and will often complain about everything.
They are cruel toward others, which includes spreading rumors, hit back, or defiantly striking out against another. Persons with anger problems often display anti-social behaviors, including denial and incapability to relate to others.
Angry persons often act out in hate and will go out of their way to hurt others in the procedure. Angry persons often have negative thinking patterns and these negative patterns are shown to others.
When a person is angry, they often curse others by saying that the other person is a stupid, or idiot, or ugly or nobody wants that person. This is belittling the other person and often the angry person finds relief by this criticism.
Lack Of Trust On Others
An angry person will often vent their lack the capability to trust others when he has the difficulty dealing with his or her anger. They are often suspicious, whining, judgmental, and often jealous of others.
They will act out disruptively, and retort to unfriendly reactions. A person with anger issues will often try to under mind anyone around them. These types of people are no fun to be around and they are in need of help.
Recently I dealt with a woman that had uncontrollable anger issues. She would react to minor issues for no apparent reason. Minor issues such as a child eating something that she envied or eating too much was enough to initiate a reaction.
Sometimes she was mild in her acts, and other times she was extreme. In most cases, she had no strong reasons for her behavior. However, there was an underlying source for her behavior. The woman did in fact display anti-social behaviors, and often conveyed erupting thinking patterns.
For instance, she would say that all men are pigs. She also talked about leading men on; leading them to her basement and having alligators eat them alive. The woman was disturbed and very sick minded.
Now she was diagnosed with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder and Bipolar – Manic Depression. I dismissed Posttraumatic Stress or at most minimized the diagnosed after carefully examining her since most of symptoms she showed were that of histrionic, anti-social traits.
The actual reason of her anger according to her was that the many men she endured relationships with mistreated her. This may have been partial reason for her anger, but the truth showed when she talked about her life. She was adopted; therefore, she had a sense of desertion.
Since she most likely hated her parents for tossing her away like garbage, the reason for her anger was obvious. She refuses to hear the other side, even if the parents were justifiable, or rather had a good cause to adopt.
Since the woman had ongoing symptoms of this type of behavior, I noticed that treatment would probably never work since she was a victim of her own state of mind and in complete denial.
I noticed that the woman had anger deep inside due to her own behaviors. She acted out criminally, writing bad bank-checks and justifying it. Therefore, the anger symptoms she persisted were partly her own making.
She created her anger and paranoia, therefore her anger is on her and no one else. However, angry people will degrade others. For instance, the angry person might say something to the affect: try these weight loss pills they will help you lose weight.
Now the person knows that the target has an area of self-esteem since she is normal weight, but thinks she is overweight. Therefore, the angered person is trying to disparage the individual by degrading her.
An angry person will also seek attention and often use negative words. For example, I am overweight. Now the person is waiting for you to tell her that she is overstressing.
The best thing to do in this cases is do not sit yourself up for a fall. Since denial is the root, no matter how many times you tell the person that she is not overweight, or she just needs to drop a few pounds you are never going to satisfy her mind.
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