Posted on Jul 04, 2006 | Comments 0
You are taking control of your life, when you are conquering anger. We all lose control from time to time, but there is obviously a problem existing, if anger is getting the best of you each time you are rejected, frightened, or interrupted emotional.
You might need anger management therapy or mental health services, if you feel, you have a problem controlling your anger. You might even visit your doctor to see if a medical condition is not contributing to your anger.
It depends on the person, but in most instances, we all deal with distresses, stress, and aggravation most of our lives. It is learning how to deal with it that counts. Anger is an emotion than can cause us more problems that what existed causing the problem in the first place.
If two or more people are involved in a conflict, self-control is often needed. If more than one person is angered in this group then problems will occur if both parties are striking out at each other.
Problems often get deeper when anger bursts occur. When anger is controlling our society, we will always have crimes, heart attacks, abuse, violence, health issues, mental illnesses, and so forth.
As you can see, nothing good comes from uncontrolled anger. After careful study the statistics of angry emotions has concluded that all of us have the capability to harm, kill, injure, or sabotage another person (s) life.
When a person is angry is often a result of threatened emotions, such as hurt of our self-importance, rejections, difficult to deal with prospects, and antagonistic flight of the imaginations.
Most of us are selfish and will often consider self rather than considering others first. We might blow a fuse and strike at the target that made us mad when we do not get our way sometimes.
Our actions often prove failure since it leads to more problems. It often instills additional anger if both parties are screaming at each other that builds up and remains there until the opportunity is obtainable to blow another fuse. This goes on and on and nothing is resolved.
Our countries have a higher divorce rate than ever and it is often because the couples could not come to a term of agreement. Now if one person out of each home is using their head in the heat of the moment then we have a hope. We can see in one example how anger got in the way and caused a major problem.
A couple is off work for the day and the man is irritable and snaps at his wife. His wife looses her cool and shouts at the husband calling him a stupid jerk. She continues to scream at him telling him that he does not respect her and finally he looses his cool and joins in the screaming match.
The two argue and scream at each other for short time and then the wife turns on her heels and storms in the bedroom slamming the door behind her. She yells through the door, by the way you are sleeping on the couch tonight jerk.
Now if the wife would have said honey you seem irritable is there something I can do to ease your mind. What do you think would happen if the tables were turned and the wife approached the husband lovingly and offering her support? Is there a problem we can work through together? The couple would be sleeping together in their bedroom enjoying a peaceful rest most likely.
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