Archive for September, 2007

Visualization is a proven technique used to help you change habits or achieve your goals.

The idea behind this technique is to visualize what you want. It involves relaxation techniques combined with positive imaging.

Research has shown that visualization works, whether or not you believe that it will.

Importance of visualization:

• Visualization can help boost your self-confidence by improving your own self-image.
• If you see yourself as meek or helpless you can use visualization to visualize yourself as strong and capable.
• If you think of yourself as unworthy or undeserving, you will use visualizations that show you as a worthy person making valuable contributions.
• If you feel you are often depressed you will use visualization that you are happy.  Whatever your issues are there is a visualization you can use to help build your confidence in that area.
• Another way you can use visualization is to help change how you interact with others.
• If you are meek and shy you will use visualize yourself in situations with others where you are more outgoing.
• You may have issues with assertiveness in which case you will visualize yourself being more assertive with others.

Acceptance and patience are very much related because both are about allowing what is to be there without judging or responding to it.

If you experience anger and you accept it, you are patient with it.

Patience is the most effective antidote to anger. Look at it this way: If anger is like poison from a venomous snake, patience is the anti-venom that can heal you and keep you alive.

Let’s say that someone pushed your buttons and criticized you. You feel the anger rising; your mind and body are quickly getting ready to defend, justify, blame, and attack. What would be patient look like in this situation?

Patience has a quality of enormous honesty in it, but it also has a quality of not escalating things, allowing a lot of space for the other person to say what they want to say while you listen. You don’t react to what you’re feeling, even though inside you are reacting.

You let the words go and just be there. When you practice patience, you’re not repressing anger; you’re just sitting there with it - going cold turkey with the aggression.

Here are the relaxation exercises that improve the quality of your speech.

Find out how to perform these exercises and practice.

Exercise for your arms:

Stand relaxed and upright. Place your hands to your sides and lower your shoulders.

Relax and release the arms, let them hang Inhale deeply and raise the arms until they are way above your head.

There should be no straining at this point. Hold your breath and reach and stretch as high as you can and are able to go. Exhale and lower your arms again.

Exercise for your hands:

Do the same procedure as for the arms, but clasp your hands together, when you reach above your head position. Next start gently rocking, swaying and moving them side to side as you keep breathing in and out.

Breathing exercise:

Inhale and exhale as normal. Rise up your arms on the next inhale (still relaxed) and now hold your breath and your arms at this horizontal position. Try and reach and stretch as far as your arms will let you go. Slowly exhale and return to resting position.

Exercise for your whole body:

Acting Without Delay Defeats Procrastination!

Most of you usually postpone the things to do at a later time.

Anytime did you think about the reason behind this type of situations?

If so, you also think about how to defeat procrastination.

Most of the people are blamed by procrastination.

If you won’t try towards correcting this behavior then you will be habituated for this and thus it will put you in continuous inaction.

Surely this will lead you towards perfecting the art of procrastination.

In order to deal with procrastination, you need to follow some basic things. If you put your effort to defeat procrastination then you are on your way towards a better life.

Procrastination – A tempting situation

Why procrastination is a tempting situation? Nobody is excused from this and it is becoming a continuous struggle for people. If you are consistent in defeating procrastination, you will have enough time to complete your tasks and you will reach your set goal.

Want to know the reason behind why you are tempting towards procrastination. With these reasons you will understand why such behaviors come to you.

If you have low self-esteem, chances are you have a hard time asking for what you want.

You may not feel you deserve attention or that what you are asking for is too much.

You may feel as though you will stand out and do not want to be noticed. You likely have feelings of unworthiness.

Situations in which you have trouble in asking for what you want:

• You may have trouble dealing with other people, especially those you view as authority figures.
• If you have low self-confidence you may prefer to ask others what they want and then help them get it instead of deciding what you want.
• You may be afraid of rejection, fearing that others won’t like you if you are too demanding or that they won’t agree with your views.
• As you start to become more confident, you may have hard time thinking about what you want.
• You may be out of touch with your own needs and wants because you have ignored them for so long.

An understanding of your needs begins with knowing the difference between real needs versus wants.

It may start with an eyestrain related headache brought on by hours watch at a monitor.

Or you might experience pain after spending an hour or more with a telephone receiver cradled in your neckline.

After nearly eight hours standing up, your feet might be painful.

Your pains, however, appear to be exacerbated by stress. Stress can marked itself in a number of physical ways.

Earaches, abdominal pain, Headaches, an itchy in our arms and legs, and sickness can all be cryptogram of stress.

In other words, the pressures that we are under can make us physically unwell. As a result, it’s not startling that we would seek a physical relief from stress.

Sense: Many people battle stress by engaging their sense of touch

One of the best ways to deal with stress is to spoil your senses. Our senses are like our personal radar detectors, letting us know when we are nearing something that is inherently good.

Therefore, it is important that we surround ourselves with things that will plea to our senses.

First, pamper your eyes. This can be done in any number of ways. For example, you might make sure that you arise early enough to see the sun rise on a summer day.

Your to-do list consists of lots of things which you want to do, but you are always bound by the limited amount of time.

When comes to your personal life you may have lots of plans to achieve.

Once you spent all your time in your work, you won’t find enough time for such things.

At this situation you feel at a loss on what to do and how to approach this dilemma.

Don’t worry, you are not alone who are facing this condition; there are most of the people who are in the same situation.

Most of you always wish to have more time in your hands so that you can accomplish more things, not only for work related things but also for personal matters.

Some of you want more time in order to deal with more work related matters to meet the deadline in finishing the deal or any such related stuff.

Some others want to spend most of the time for their personal things, whereas others want to spend more time with their family. Some may also want extra time for a vacation or simply they want to spend their valuable time with their loved ones.

Before starting any of these exercises, it extremely important that you have to master the breathing techniques and basics and give them each a try.

A variety of breathing exercises are:

Cleansing breathing through your nose:

Place your right thumb on your right nostril. Close it totally, firmly, but gently.

Do not apply too much pressure. Now inhale slowly and fill your lungs to its full capacity.

Change your hands and close your left nostril while exhaling slowly through the right nostril until there is no air left. Repeat with the reverse, starting with the thumb now closing the left nostril.

This will raise your awareness and the importance of breath in speech, which most people tend to ignore. The stronger your mastery of this basic technique, the better your speaking will be! Without even a word spoken, you have taken strides already in improving your speech.

Breath-holding exercises:

While counting upwards from one to five, inhale deeply through your nose, lungs and diaphragm. Now keep the breath in until you count to five in your minds-eye.