Archive for August, 2007

Fire up those muscles in your head and put them to good use if you want to be a public speaking star.

The mind is your channel of circuits that permit you to discover all the possibilities. The mind has many sides with one being the creative parent side.

Now of course you will require other sides of the brain to write a good speech that will make the audience stand up and praise so loud you will wish they would sit down and shut up.

However, for now we are going for the creative side and put it to good use, while slowly moving into the other sides of the brain.

Creative Side of the Brain

Using the creative side of the brain, consider on your questions. Consider all areas of the question carefully and deliberate like you are congress trying to resolve a matter. Now you can act like a weed cycle and pull up the roots of your answers.

This is at what time you will also use your critical side, parent side, and even tosses in your child side. Make this speech a night they won’t forget by adding a bit of simplicity and laughter to the content.

Stress can be your best buddy or your nastiest enemy. It is up to you to make the decision to get on the good side of stress.

We can separate stress by examining the good and bad sides of the force and what it entails.

When stress is good it leads us to the cause of the problems we are facing and takes us to the path that helps us find relief.

Stress can lead to a game of tug-of-war since the emotions are messy and the mind is fighting to take control.

If we have a plan and are prepared to handle our situations as they arise then we are on the street to success and making stress our best friend.

When we ignore stresses normal reactions we are heading for a lethal fall.

For example, you have a decision that needs your immediate attention. The decision includes spending money on an upcoming desire rather than saving the money to avoid over drafts.

Therefore, you can see a need is involved and a demand is in question. What are you going to do?

Self confidence is an attitude that allows people to have positive, realistic views of themselves and situations that involve them.

People who are self-confident show that they have control over their lives and their abilities, no matter what happens.

They believe that they will be able to do what they set their mind to with a positive outcome.

Self confident people don’t always expect to be able to do everything by themselves; however, they have a healthy and practical approach to everything that comes their way.

Self confidence doesn’t necessarily enter into every aspect of a person’s life. For example, someone may exhibit self confidence at home but not at work, or during certain situations and not others.

Everyone has some areas of their life that they feel more confident about than others. Areas that people are specially trained in or have learned about are areas that they will generally have the most confidence about.

For instance, someone who went to college and graduated with a degree in mathematics will feel most confident when discussing or using mathematics.

Many people feel trapped by their anger, unable to retreat or withdraw once their anger feelings are triggered.

It’s like being launched on autopilot into a tight space where there doesn’t seem to be any room for other choices or other ways of responding.

Although recognition is an important start, it is not sufficient enough to get you out of the anger trap.

You will also need to learn a new way of responding to your anger; approaching it and the feelings underlying it, with acceptance and compassion.

Practicing acceptance is an act of kindness toward yourself that allows you to heal and move on with your life.

The Four Steps of Acceptance

By using acceptance, you’re going to meet the fire that fuels anger with active compassion and kindness.

To get there involves a commitment to learning four interrelated steps: acknowledging your anger; accepting the situation as it is; identifying the hurt, fear, and judgment; and responding with forgiveness and compassion.

Step 1: Acknowledge Your Anger

First you need to learn to acknowledge that you are angry when you’re feeling angry. If you don’t recognize or acknowledge anger, you’ll never find out what is fueling it.

Ginseng is a root herb that has been used in China for thousands of years, and in America since the 1700s. Ginseng is a native to China, Korea, Russia, and America.

Each variety has slightly diverse characteristics, but all act as an “adaptogen” - a substance that helps you cope with all kinds of physical and psychological stress.

Chinese medicine says it balances “yang energy” and Western medicine says it improves the function of the adrenal glands.

As far as the brain is concerned, ginseng’s power lies in its capability to control and lower the release of the stress hormone cortisol, which is deadly to the brain.

Benefits Of Ginseng

Many studies confirm ginseng’s beneficial effects on the brain: subjects taking this herb made fewer mistakes, had speedier reaction times, improved their scores on standard cognitive function tests (by more than 50 percent on average), and increased mental and physical stamina.

Anti Aging Tonic

Ginseng is popular as an anti-aging tonic used by many women during and after menopause to reduce symptoms of vaginal dryness, insomnia, reduced libido, and hot flashes. A recent study showed that women taking ginseng experienced an enhanced quality of life and less depression.

You might be wondering how a computer can help you to become a public speaking star.

Computers can help you write your speech, as well help you efficiently research, write with speed, edit your work, check spelling and grammar and more.

Computers can help you get in touch, while helping you to stay informed.

Computers can help you avoid wasting time, avoid never ending revising of your speech, and the list continues.

A well-written speech should be typed on a computer. This looks more professional than handwriting. Furthermore, speeches often require research, support, correspondence and so forth.

You Can Get Latest Information

With the help of computers you can do research for the latest information and also send emails instantly. How much better can it get.

The Internet has a variety of newsletters, headlines, magazines, articles, newspaper and more that can put you in connection faster with important facts needed to finish your speech.

The Internet also has libraries all over the world with available information that will help you with the research process. Imagine delivering a ground-breaking speech to the public that is saturated with facts you can verify.

Set a goal for yourself. Start with a weekly goal that you can attain.

A sample goal may be to say “no” three times during the week, when you normally would have said yes.

For instance, the PTA chairman may call and ask you to donate some time to an upcoming event.

Instead of saying yes when you really don’t have the time, say no.

Although you may feel guilty about saying no, you need to establish a new habit, one of saying what you really mean.

After several such instances it will become easier to do. At the end of the week you will feel good about yourself and will be closer towards developing self-confidence.

Self confidence builds on self-confidence. The more you have, the easier it is to have more. Confidence builds on itself. Negativity tears it down. Continue to work towards changing your negative behaviors. Recognize that you won’t be perfect.

You will have days that you slip back into old behaviors. Don’t let that get you down. Don’t beat yourself up for the slip. Instead, realize what you could have done differently and move on.

Paralinguistic communication is the study of voice and how words are said.

When we open our mouths we disclose all kinds of things about ourselves that have nothing at all to do with the words we are uttering and controlling the nonverbal elements of our message can entirely change its meaning.

Paralinguistic cues refer to everything having to do with speech for the words we actually utter.

In communicating our intent, these may be a bit subtler other forms of nonverbal behaviors.

Certainly a booming, yelling voice is not subtle. However, a firm that conveys conviction is more nuanced than a pointing finger, big gestures, or the assault of one’s personal space.

Vocal cues contain:

• Quality: Quality normally refers to those vocal characteristics that let you to differentiate one voice from another. Is the voice small, feminine, or tremulous; thin, throaty, or fronted (aloof); tense, flat, grating, nasal, harsh, or shrill? All of these represent various combinations of rate, pitch, and volume.
• Intensity: How emphatic are the statements? For instance, “I really want you to do it now!” The intensity can be a thorough indicator of the speaker’s passion and commitment or lack of it!